Iin? what advice would young give a mother?

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It is not easy to know that my son hates me. I knew about it long time ago, I thought it was a teenage thing. Now it is getting worse than I thought. 5 years ago i stopped asking him to help with hoovering and washing up. I maintain the house all by myself. I cook, I wash everything.

The problem is I talk to my son every now and then like asking him if he had his dinner, if he wants washing to be done, if he needs any help with his studies. etc....

All I get is shouting and extreme anger.

I desperately need a young person's opinion. please send asap

highly appreciate your comment and thank you in advance

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    He's getting bullied, probably really badly and he's taking his anger out on you because he can't fight back. He doesn't hate you.

    If you ask him about he will probably deny it, you could try going to his school or talking to his friends.

    Hope things get better, let me know.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I'm not a young person, but I would suggest you either put your foot down and insist he treat you with some respect, or that he get the hell out of your house! If he's too young, then contact whatever passes for social services where you are and tell them you can not control the little monster and you are afraid for your life. A few weeks in a state run institution might straighten his ass out and he'll be begging you to come home.

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  • ladyvictim
    9 years ago

    Thank you all very much

    you don't know how relieved I am.

    thanks again

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  • αвαdσηтнєDєѕтяσуєя
    9 years ago

    I'm almost 20. I moved out when I was 18, and without trying to sound vain here, I consider myself a lot more mature than most people my age, or the ones I've met anyway. You mentioned you want a young person's opinion so here it goes, and my apologies if it comes off as offensive.

    You are babying your son. You are allowing him to talk down to you like you're his dog and it will only get worse the longer you allow it to continue. I have never gone through a rebellious stage as a teen earlier on, and I always had respect for my mother. Why? Because I was kept in line and I knew that if I was disrespectful, there would be consequences.

    You sound like a wonderful mother, and I'm sure you only want the best for your son but you need to put your foot down. Let him know that aslong as he is living under your roof, he will be expected to abide by your rules, nomatter what they are. If he doesn't like it, he can feel free to move out. Trust me, this is for your son's own good aswell as yours.

    My grandmother babied her sons, and today both are in their 40's and still live with her, still have their food cooked and clothes washed by her, and frankly, its disgusting.

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