Is it normal we label ourselves negatively

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Just look at emos for example. I was also emo once.
They label themselves sad and angsty, everyday, all the time. "I am depressed", "I hate the world", "no one gets me", "I am a loner" etc. Then they ask to themselves "why am I depressed?", "why does no one befriend me?", "why am I lonely?". Well just think a little.
Even if people thought emo looked attractive and cool, most wouldn't approach because you give the leave-me-alone body language. Even hiding face with bangs. Sitting curled up in a corner. Looking uncomfortable and rude. People won't approach because they think you dont want to, or they feel they will get rude comment from you. Other people are insecure also. They want to be around friendly people which make them feel not judged !

I realize this from studying a lot how to cure social anxiety. It got me to think of which people I feel more comfortable with. It is people who appear confident. Not narcissistic confident but warm confident. People who give smiles and have open body language, look put together and open.
And I realize about the labels I put on myself. When I was younger no matter what I said to myself I am happy and better than all the mean people. I am a confident person etc. Then I let words like "quiet" and "shy" get to me more and more so I start to identify and say about myself "I am very quiet and shy". So what happens ? I became more quiet and shy... Suddenly not just outside in places but at home also... And it made me less happy so I start "I hate all people" at first as a meme but then I start to actually hate people...And became rude. So now I am rude to people. I realized we make ourselves bad things. Why?

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  • dude_Jones
    2 years ago

    Try being proud of your rudeness, your crudeness, and your lewdness. It works for me.

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  • Tommythecaty
    2 years ago

    Yes, but notice it’s all ego, “me..me..I..I..”

    All the “I’m so depressed” “I have all these problems” stems from full on lame ass narcissism at its core. People get addicted to it these days.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      Not just nowadays its always been like this.
      I realized my shyness make me self absorbed. Often people have thought me rude and even asked me why I show no interest by asking them stuff. I genuienly cannot think of things to ask people though, even people I like and care for. I am too focused on myself and how im being percieved.
      Narcissism...Hm well thats different. I think its more having those problems but starting to identify with them too much. Making it your personality and image. I think even that change is scary. What will happen if I change for the better ? ... Maybe fear of realizing of many years you wasted on not improving... But people in general are kind of self absorbed. Its human nature. Its what ive learned about why social anxiety is stupid, it is because people are more focused on themself than on you. Its kind of sad but a relief

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      • Tommythecaty
        2 years ago

        Always, yes I agree. But it’s undeniably worsened with the rise of the internet, giving everyone a place to grab for attention.

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  • Meowypowers
    2 years ago

    Ideally I can live in a perfect world with a view. I am an Infj and don't want to be around most people.

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  • Meowypowers
    2 years ago

    You sound like an INFJ.

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  • my_life_my_way
    2 years ago

    Emos and such are usually just young teens looking for a way to show how they’re unique and their own person, it’s usually just harmless clothes and makeup. But I agree with the bit about anxiety and depression. I 100% believe that mental disorders don’t exist, like not any of them. They’re all just different facets of natural personalities that everyone’s so keen to put a label on nowadays

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      Not true really it's literally chemical imbalance in the brain and the brain being different when you have conditions. But you can function better with changing your perception and how you label yourself. You cant suddenly cure yourself but feel better.

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      • my_life_my_way
        2 years ago

        You can, if someone tried to diagnose you, just say no. Therapists/psychiatrists and such are just ghoulish gaslighters that get off on other peoples’ misery. The chemicals are only real if you let them be.

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    • Billy24
      2 years ago

      What a fucking idiot.

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    • 1WeirdGuy
      2 years ago

      My dad use to say something similar. He always said something like the difference in a disease and a disorder is a disorder is just a label on a bunch of symptoms.

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