Is it normal to wonder why most divorces are filed by women?

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Why is it that most divorces are filed by women nowadays? According to data that i have gathered throughout time, it seems like women are likely to ask for divorce first, statistics say around 80% of them when the woman initiated this action. And the weirdest things is, in most divorce cases, the main argument and reasoning behind it is not domestic violence or abuse, it's mostly differences regarding lack of communication and/or feelings. Women claiming to be unhappy with their marriage and claiming that "he's not what i thought he would be" or "I feel like he didn't appreciate me" most of the time. Weird enough, most men claim they did everything in their power to make things work, but to no avail, their wives seeming relentless in their pursuit to end the marriage as soon as possible.

What i wonder is, do women fall out of love so quickly compared to men? Or is it more likely for women to take action when things aren't working out, as opposed to men, who seem to be more lazy/superficial about it?

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  • Shelbs
    9 years ago

    Wow, lots of negative comments towards the women. There are so many reasons as to why women have filed for divorce more than men. A big one is that women are more emotional, and so when their emotional needs aren't met for years, women get tiered and leave. This doesn't mean that the men are to blame. It also doesn't mean that the men are neglectful if they were legitimately trying. It means that the men were incapable of loving their wives in the way they wanted to be loved. And that the wives were incapable of communicating what they needed to feel loved. It's really 50/50.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    It's partially one of the reasons why I would not get married and think it is a stupid move by men.

    You also have to remember the fact that women recieve alimony far more than men do, so I think that would be a factor.

    Married, more so for guys, is like gambling your future in ways that are out of your control entirely. Don't do it.

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    • Crusades
      9 years ago

      "Why is prostitution illegal, but alimony isn't? They're basically the same thing. You're paying for the whore to leave."

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        The no nonsense man, eh? ;)

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I find this to be a bit of a sweeping generality.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      Well, there are statistics out there that state this. It's not saying all women do this, but that women are the primary initiators of divorce.

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Well, I can only speak for myself as I have unfortunately been married and divorced twice.

        I initiated a divorce the first time, because he was actively cheating and stated he was in love with this woman from his work. The ironic thing here is that she was hired to do a job that was initially offered to me, but I turned down. I did offer to forgive and reconcile, but he wanted to be with her. My lawyer didn't accomplish much of anything for me and it was a big waste of money. My folks came to help me and I packed up the majority of my stuff. I brought much more material wealth to the marriage than he did and I think my biggest mistake was leaving the large quantity of furniture and appliances for which I paid behind with him. I was not in my right mind. If I had to do it again I would take back EVERYTHING I brought to the marriage! I also wish I had settled much more quickly. I think the person who often times gets hurt the most is the one who brought the most stuff to the marriage as well as the one against whom adultery was committed. Unfortunately, I was both in the case of my first divorce.

        The second time I got divorced was because I discovered within months of getting married that he was an alcoholic and probably a drug addict. I think there are some who would see my behavior as some sort of abandonment, but I see no point in staying with a person who decides to stay at home playing video games and drinking all day instead of looking for work and contributing. I think my part in this is that in the early stages of the relationship I failed to recognize and perhaps even chose to ignore the red flags. I had a quick no fault divorce from him here in Nevada with a paralegal rather than hiring a lawyer.

        I don't know if I'll ever get married again and I tend to believe that I won't, because I'm quite happy alone for now. Also, I can't afford to make another mistake what with all the legal fees, loss of property and emotional strain. I think marriage is fine for some people like my parents who are strangely enough celebrating 47 years together today. They take care of one another, communicate and understand each other and above all they love deeply.

        I'm pretty sure I'm burned out on romantic love.

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  • OtherSide
    9 years ago

    It's because she wants the house.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    9 years ago

    It's simple: people don't take marriage seriously. Every single couple I knew got divorced because they either got married too soon, couldn't hang on when problems arose, or the woman was using the guy for something. The only couple I know that's still together are my parents and they were together for close to 30 years before they decided to get married.

    Because of all that, I honestly can't see why anyone would expect to get married. Marriage is just a contract that binds two people together and screws one of them over come divorce time.

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago

    cuz women want the d...obvs

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  • mscurriouus
    9 years ago

    I think it's difficult for women to figure out how to get the communication they need. Then on the flip side, when they do start getting some feedback at first, they are defensive. I think this happens because they aren't yet used to two way communication even though it's something they want. This could push the man back to his position of his confirmation bias, but it's sorta justified in a sense. So here you have this clusterf**k of confusion and ahhhhh the stress...

    This is usually the point where the woman will have to learn to step down and give him room to come back out of hiding, and for her to be slow to response or just practice validating him for a little while until there's semi-smooth sailing; aka progress. I'd say this is the stage most difficult for couples to make it through... I hope it made sense.

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  • 4nother1
    9 years ago

    I had no idea but seems to make some sense. I figure a man won't dovorce
    because he's content with less emotionally. I would concur with what the other said about alimony even though I don't understand much about divorce.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    Abandonment is more economically expedient for men. Divorce is more economically expedient for women with kids, especially when kids are in their mid-teens. This allows the women to keep the men in tow with sex until the time to split up is most convenient.

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    • mscurriouus
      9 years ago

      This makes me wonder if people should arrange parenting relationships separate from romantic, long-term relationships. Shared custody, kids have 4 parents, and stability from two households/addresses.

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  • Obblop
    9 years ago

    American dames are spoiled rotten and unworthy of a decent male. MGTOW Men Going Their Own Way is a response to the innate idiocy of the typical modern USA dame.

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