Is it normal to wonder if love is real?

67% Normal
1 Comment

I wonder if love like in movies are real. That it exists that you can be really loved by someone who would miss you if you passed on, never forget you. Someone who would daydream about you and want to be with you most of all. I've felt this for people but im an avoidant person and wasnt capable of showing it so I lost them, but ive felt it. Ive never felt anyone feeling it for me. I feel like im someone people find cute and sweet and they find me charming and girlfriend material but nothing deeper just an empty canvas they can fill because im shy and quiet and dont show myself much. Im a closed book. I could be anyone but im never myself.
I realized my guy friend has stuck around for so long he has gotten behind my shell pretty well. It felt weird. I know hes wanted to date me but I dont know if he loves me, its not something ive ever seen. Hes affectionate with me but some people are just affectionate so it doesnt tell me much. He shares his future plans with me and his worries truthfully but im a good friend so why shouldnt he. I wondered to myself what if he loves me, but if so, wouldnt I know it? What if no one will ever know or understand me better than him or do so but not love me? Has anyone ever loved me but like me they werent capable of showing it well ? Is it real that a not very exciting person like myself can be loved or do you need to change who you are?
I keep wondering this because I dont do exciting things, im not special at least not in a cool way... Though some people called me cool or funny but they were probably joking.

Voting Results
67% Normal
Based on 3 votes (2 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 1 )
  • S0UNDS_WEIRD
    2 years ago

    Of course it's real. Ask yourself if you're capable of feeling that sort of love. You already said you are. Now ask yourself how likely it is you're the only one in the world. You're not.

    You say you don't know if this friend loves you and feel like you would know. You also said he's wanted to date you but apparently you haven't dated. Presumably you rejected him then. Of course he's then not going to fully express that love if it's there. I'm not saying he does but I'm saying it's possible. How do you feel about him? I presume you just didn't feel the same. If you did, you need to ask yourself why you're not together then.

    You also insinuated that because you're shy and quiet any guys into you must be looking for an empty canvas to fill. This isn't true at all. It's often just the opposite. You could intrigue them and make them really want to figure out who you really are.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0