Is it normal to want to touch attractive strangers(girls)as if we were togeher?

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Now i'm not saying i would do it, but i'm a few months (4) after breaking up with my 1 year long relation ship with my ex, and sometimes in a public bus or just outside i just want to grab some one i deem attractive and do stuff or caress their hair maybe even kiss em' like if i was in a relationship with them. I know it be rape and i don't think i would do it ever but i just get these moments i want to. IDK seems normal to me that's why i want an opinion from someone else. Thanks :)

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Based on 38 votes (18 yes)
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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Don't go grabbing on strangers, cause you don't want to end up in jail or having your ass kicked or whatever! Sounds like you're aware of how inappropriate and wrong these urges of yours are; I have to give you props for self awareness. I suspect you're going through some kinda withdrawal from the loss of this relationship. Whatever you do don't go drowning your sorrows in alcohol, drugs or anything else that might lower your inhibitions. Right now you are vulnerable to impulsivity, because of your emotional state. Your inhibitions are your friends right now. When these thoughts of touching and grabbing strangers enter your head you must not entertain them.

    Challenge these urges with thoughts that validate reality. Here are some good examples:
    *This attractive person is not my ex.
    *I don't know this person.
    *This too shall pass.
    *This person is a stranger.
    *I am not a criminal so I won't behave like one.
    *This person has a right to not be touched without consent.
    *I will not feel lonely and heartbroken forever.

    I hope my suggestions help you. Please remember that feelings aren't facts.

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    • fluffy1uv
      7 years ago

      *many many clapping emojis*

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      • RoseIsabella
        7 years ago

        Thanks.
        :-)

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Good way to get hurt and/or arrested. Keep hands to yourself.

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  • fluffy1uv
    7 years ago

    It is normal to want to do this yes, and I'm glad that you know you shouldn't!! Rosabella explained it perfectly. I totally understand though sometimes if a guys got some really fat cake i just wanna GRAB it. Oh well

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    7 years ago

    Thanks guys, really helpful :)

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  • (s)aint
    7 years ago

    As long as it´s just fantasies. If I´m outside I see at LEAST 2-3 women I´d like to grope and have my way with.
    They just look so soft and warm.

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  • Dreamsao
    7 years ago

    Just don't do it. Let those fantasies just be fantasies.

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  • MR.mr
    7 years ago

    i understand I have thoughts like this too just don't act on them.

    BTW how is that rape? I get it's sexual assault but that's not actual rape.

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