Is it normal to want to stay with somone when it might be over already?

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I'm not in love anymore. After finally dating my best friend, i shortly moved 1000 miles away. because we were so blissfully happy and in love we decided it would be regretful to break up. So 2 years later, we're doing long-distance, i wear my promise ring, we talk for hours a day, visit, and actually we will be moving in together in less than two months. Though, through everything we've been through.. I dont feel that i am in love anymore. My heart is broken and i cant even remember the last time i have felt the butterflies in my stomach from him. he has hurt me so much and i know i have to, but what hurts the most is the lack of compassion i feel from him.

is it normal to still want to spend my life with someone who i dont know i am in love with? i love him so deeply and weve been through so much... i lost my virginity to him. advice welcome.

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    if it feels wrong, then it probably is. don't commit to this guy just because you feel obliged to. breakups hurt even when you are the one who wants out. know that you are just as valuable a human being whether you are a virgin or not, so don't worry about that.

    also, you were blissfully happy at the beginning of the relationship (that's the part where all the fun is). even with the best life partner, a relationship is going to change and mature. the newness feels so great, but doesn't last forever.

    now, on the other hand, it could be just a case of cold feet. i think you have alot of thinking to do in the next couple of months, but i wouldn't put off making a decision. after all, that would be cruel to him.

    seriously, since you two talk so much on the phone, i think you should talk to him about how you are feeling. if your relationship is good enough to live together, it's good enough to share even these feelings you are having. don't be so truthful that you say you don't love him, just tell him you think you have cold feet. that at least will open up the dialogue.

    if you don't feel excited at the thought of being with him again, i am thinking that you know this isn't right for you.

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