Is it normal to want to help my crush out?

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So this girl who goes to my school really wants to date me and i want to too, but my friend heard she had a boyfriend so i confronted her about it and she told me that when she was 14 she was raped, so this guy helped her by being there talking to her just basicly helping her pull through it because she was cuting her self and stuff, but hes now treating her like shit being clingy and stuff yelling at her and from what she said it sounds like he has some mental issuse he needs to work out like he called her at three in the morning saying "it gots me it gots me" and she takes anxioty pills because of it bugs her consions so much ( and yes i made sure he wasnt hitting her) and shes really happy and can forget her problems when shes around me and i feel the same but shes scared if she leaves him hell either hurt himself or someone else so she doesnt want to leave him and im really not sure what advise to give her for the fear of ill make the wrong decision and ive never felt this way about any girl i just want to be around her constantly talking and im not sure but i think i love this girl can anyone give me advise?

Tell her to break up with him 8
Tell her to stay with him 0
Let her figure it out 0
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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    She can't let the guy control her life! She has to be her own woman and pursue her happiness! If he did do something crazy that's all on him not her, and it could be a dangerous situation for her to stay in!

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  • GuessWho
    11 years ago

    "Tell her to break up with him", If she feels the same about you, she'll probably do it. He's obviously not right for her anyway if it's negatively affecting her life. It's also not fair on him for her to continue the relationship if she doesn't love him.

    She's confused and possibly looking to you for advice, and you're seeking it here.
    I originally thought about choosing "Let her figure it out", but then I could just as well let you figure it out and not answer at all.

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    • fuckthisfuckingnamebullshit
      11 years ago

      She does want to date me she tells me everyday hes just suicidal well thats what he told her and she doesnt want him to kill him self (i mean i dont even want to kill himself and i havent even met the guy..) thats why i havent said anything yet

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      • GuessWho
        11 years ago

        He needs professional help. It sounds like he has issues that even she can't fix, no matter how much she wants to.

        Of course, I can't give you professional advice, just what actions I think are best to take, as everybody else on the site can.
        Not everyone will comment, so the vote is your best bet at a general opinion, I'm just stating my reason for choosing that option.

        And your first question: IIN to want to help my crush out?
        YES.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    She will fuck you as a way of thanking you.

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  • fuckthisfuckingnamebullshit
    11 years ago

    And girls should only comment on this please guys are kinda useless when it comes to this type of thing lmao no offence

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  • fuckthisfuckingnamebullshit
    11 years ago

    Today she came too school and told me that he called her the night before and broke up with her and she said fine do it hung up... not five seconds later he called back saying hes sorry but she told him no and he told her hes going to shoot himself in the head IIN? She didnt tell me if she took him back tho.. and i left alot of stuff out in the story like sometimes hell freak out and punch walls she didnt specify why either and he wont let her call her mom when he comes over like will NOT let her. I tried to calm her mind by telling her everyone is capable of change but she told me he doesnt want to change dontknow if he told her that himself or if thats just a speculation but idk man i want to tell her to break up but im kinda scared she going to think im just sayinthat for my own good? it just boggles my mind what she'll put her self through for him! im really starting to think hes just using her...

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