Is it normal to want to have sex with a friend who has feelings for you?

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My friend is in love with me and has expressed this many times. He wants to be more than friends. I have repeatedly told him that we will never be more than friends. He says that he has now accepted it. We are both single by the way...and live in different states...

The thing is, I would like to have sex with him. Would it be morally wrong of me to have sex with him, considering that he has feelings for me?

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Based on 29 votes (17 yes)
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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    *flush* there goes your friendship, you think he loves you now watch what happens if you sleep together.

    Totally wrong to do that to him, he has feelings for you, you can't use him for sex and then deny him of a relationship. If you're going to sleep with him then commit to the feelings he definitely still has for you. You can't use him to get what you want when you're denying him of what he really wants, that's one sided

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    • CloverFish
      9 years ago

      Agreed.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I understand.... But what if I said that we have both not had sex in a very long time, especially him... He lacks confidence and has self esteem issues, I thought that us having sex might improve his confidence... I am hoping he can realise that he can get a girl like me...

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      • Fall_leaves
        9 years ago

        That's not going to make him realize he can get a girl like you that's just going to make him realize he can't because you don't want a relationship.

        I'm telling you I had low selfesteem but having sex with someone I know would never be in a relationship with me would have completely shattered what self esteem I had. the best thing you can do as a friend is help him find a girl or boost him up so that he'll go on dates and root for him, don't sleep with him that will only lead him on and he'll never try to pursue other women.

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Excuses excuses, he'll fall head over heels in love with you and get obsessed with you more than likely.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Is this common behaviour? Because this is what has already happened, and no, we have not had sex.

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          • RoseIsabella
            9 years ago

            It can be common behavior for some people. If I were you I would distance myself from him.

            And yes, I have dumped so called Platonic friends for this sort of behavior. Don't give in to this, because you will regret it.

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  • limp.left.nut
    9 years ago

    Just suggest that you could be "fuck buddies" instead?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      He wants more than that :(

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Fuck what he wants! Don't go with him out of guilt, and don't use him for sex.

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