Is it normal to want to go under a permanent birth control at the age of 22??

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So most of my life, other than when I was younger than 7 or so, I decided I did not want kids. I literally hate the idea of having kids. It's not that I totally hate them, I just can't stand the idea of being a mother. I have taken care of my younger sisters most of my life and I don't want most of my adult life to be me taking care of someone else again. I'll admit, I can be a pretty selfish person. Plus I am the kind of person that is more about having a career and maybe someone to be with than having kids. Yes, yes I know you can have it all, but I really don't want kids. Lol. I really want to talk to my doctor about different methods of permanent birth control, but my family says I will regret it. I truly do not believe I will regret it. I know myself. My family is super family oriented though, so out of curiosity, I was wondering if it's just my family that feels this way, or is it something most people would not consider normal? So what do you think? Feel free to leave a comment. Lol unless you're just going to say abstinence is the ultimate birth control or something along those lines.. ;P

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Doktor_Hildred_Von_Steinmann

9 years ago

Just be careful with what you choose. Some permanent birth control methods can seriously screw up your lady parts. On another note, I myself am a medical qualified Doktor and have a hacksaw.

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NeuroNeptunian

9 years ago

A doctor won't sterilize you at your age. They won't sterilize you unless you have a kid (usually 2+) or are 35-40 minimum age.

Get Paraguard. I have a few hormone sensitive friends in their early twenties that got it and think it is great. I am 22 and have been on Mirena since 20, it's workin' out.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  This is really helpful. Thanks :)
  
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CatV

9 years ago

Normal! Don't let other people bully you into doing something you don't want with your own uterus. You know your own mind better than anyone. There are lots of childfree women who are still happy being childfree well into old age.

I have no children and I got permanently sterilized at 23. No regrets whatsoever. Best thing I ever did.

Those saying no one will fix you are wrong (obviously, since I got it done myself). You just have to shop around and be persistent. You will get some rejections from patronizing "doctors" who think they get to tell you how you feel, but eventually you'll find a doctor who will be respectful and do the procedure.

My advice is to hit up a bunch of family planning clinics and ask them to give you the card for the most liberal OB/GYN they can think of. That's how I found the surgeon who tied my tubes.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Thank you for understanding! :) I hope I don't have to talk to too many doctors who will refuse to help me out. I'm tired of explaining myself. It's like "Look I'm sorry I don't have the mommy gene!!"
  
  Out of curiosity... and you can totally say it's too personal of a question, but I gotta ask... Did it in any way affect your sex drive? It's my only concern, so I was just wondering how it went for you..
  
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  - Cattish
    
    7 years ago
    
    No effect on my sex drive. I have always had a high sex drive, and I still do now.
    
    I did not notice any change in my body at all, actually. I stayed home from work recovering for 3 days, but I felt ok and I didn't need any help or anything. Just kinda sore and bloated (during laparoscopy they put air in your abdomen so they can see better -- it takes a day or two for the air to reabsorb).
    
    My scar is the size of a grain of rice, inside my belly button.
    
    By the way, there is a recent study that came out that shows traditional tubal is more effective than non-surgical Essure. I used to recommend Essure to childfree women (I am active in the community), but right now, I'd say get a traditional tubal until they fix whatever the issue is with the Essure implant. Really glad I went the surgical route!
    
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Lynxikat

9 years ago

Are you secretly me?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Or are you secretly me?
  
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dom180

9 years ago

You should consider getting a contraceptive implant. It's the most reliable form of birth control I know, and it lasts for about 3 years without having to worry at all. It seems to me like the "rational choice".

That said, I would guess the symbolic value of having permanent surgery is probably important to you and it's totally your choice whether your prioritize that symbolic value over keeping your range future choices available.

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charli.m

9 years ago

Doctors are unlikely to perform an irreversible surgery on someone your age, regardless of how certain you are, purely because it is irreversible and they don't want the however tony chance you'll change your mind to come up.

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dasugaknows

9 years ago

I dont know how old you are but people change all the time, including yourself. You never know how you will feel in another few years and you may regret it. Just get an iud.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I'm 22. I get what you mean, but I have been convinced I didn't want kids since I was like 10. My reasons have changed, but my choice hasn't. I want something permanent because I don't want to constantly be in fear of accidentally getting pregnant. Thanks for commenting, though.
  
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RoseIsabella

9 years ago

I wouldn't do anything permanent.

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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

I think if you feel this way, you are old enough to make a decision. It's not like you are 16 and decided this yesterday. Some folks just aren't cut out to be parents and there's absolutely nothing that says you must be a breeder. It sounds like the perfect alternative to abstinence, for you.

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Goomats

9 years ago

I would take something semi-permanent, because, although it may seem hard top believe, some day you MIGHT feel differently. I doubt it, but you never know.

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wistfulmaiden

9 years ago

Be careful with tubal ligation, I had one a few years ago and my hormones have been messed up since. I ended up still being on birth control because if I don't take it I bleed every two weeks.

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kelili

9 years ago

At twenty-two I was a selfish little bitch who was enjoying life way too much. Things change quickly and I think that you lack the maturity needed to take that kind of decision.

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handsignals

9 years ago

Making life changing decisions at 22, seems like a good idea.

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- daydreamer394
  
  9 years ago
  
  They make you do it when you're a child.
  
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captblood44

9 years ago

yes. tie your tubes. then at 40 or so you can spend thousands trying to get pregnant. you can always adopt.

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