Is it normal to want to be alone after a breakup from a long term relationship

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I broke up with my long term boyfriend (5 years +relationship) about 18 months ago . I feel like I am finally over him but do not want another relationship.I feel like this is my time to get to know my self truly as we where togther from such a young ago (16 years old). I miss the companionship sometimes but most of the time I am happy just being me with my cat is this normal . I do not casual date/Sex it is not something I do so please don't suggest

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  • mixwell
    10 years ago

    So 5 year plus 18montha and you were 16 so you must be about 22-24 now? I'd say it's quite common for you to feel this way. I was similar with my ex of 7 years (from 13-4 til I was 21) and all I knew was her. I think in retrospect it was a good thing because I got to go out with my guy friends, go clubbing and meet new women but remained single and figure/found myself out.

    As parental as it sounds you should go to school, work or whatever it is you want to pursue and make that your main priority. It's good you want to remain single because I've seen a lot of young 20s females who feel they have to be in a relationship all the time to feel wanted/worthy.

    Enjoy this time to explore and do what YOU want because once you're married and/or have kids you'll find you're more restricted. I'm single 29 male and purchased a puppy who is 9mths now and even with that i find at times I can't get up and go somewhere for an extended period without planning on how my dog is going to get taken care of.

    Sorry if I'm rambling, enjoy your being single !!!

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  • ProseAthlete
    10 years ago

    I wish I'd had your good sense and self-sufficiency at your age. That isn't just normal, it's exceptional. More power to you and your cat! :)

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