Is it normal to want something so much, but lack of confidence holds you back?

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I have a major passion for singing and music and kind of know I have a good voice (and people have told me I have). In my heart of hearts, I know I'd love to do something with my voice and singing is just so important to me. However, there are only three people in the world I'm comfortable to sing in front of and I just find it so hard to be confident with it. It's very frustrating. Someone I know who has contacts in the music business and is a backing singer has even offered to listen to a recording of my voice. But I'm too shy/don't even have the confidence to send her a sample! So I haven't done that yet. I do often think, how will I feel in future if I never do anything with it... and I know I'll feel regret. But it's still just so hard to get over this lack of confidence! I kind of know I'm good, but doubt myself. is it normal to be so held back by lack of confidence and self-doubt? Any advice would be truly appreciated as well and would also like to hear from others who are in a similar predicament! Thanks.

Yes, absolutely. 15
Yes, but not to point where you do nothing. 4
Kind of. 0
No. Get over it. 3
SING FROM THE HILLS! Who cares? 7
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  • Darthtatersalad
    10 years ago

    Many people have problems with confidence holding them back. According to what you posted you are a very good singer. You should try talking with people you are close to about the problem and to see if you can overcome it. If you still have trouble I would recommend professional help because you seem to have a really good thing going for you. I also have had similar issues in the past and can tell you it isn't easy to do but perseverance will be well rewarded.

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  • flowergirl87
    10 years ago

    Thanks, everyone. I appreciate your words.

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  • Watchout
    10 years ago

    It is also happening 2 me. I want to join the spelling Bee competition but im less confident and i know that i am good at it since last year. Another thing is that...the teacher who is incharge of the competition is the one i used 2 dream about at constant nights like almost everyday so this teacher often looks at me in a very nasty way and i have no idea why. I think he hates me and i also think that he is also having dreams about me but i'm not quite sure. He used to like me, but why does he give me a bad look nowadays??? I am also scared that he won't choose me to go through with the competition because of that. I really don't know what to do anymore #stressed#

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    When I worked for some popular rock bands in the 60's, several of my musicians would be so nervous before a performance that they would throw up. These were professional musicians, headlining some pretty big shows and yet every time they performed, they were incredibly nervous. They were fine once on stage and the music began, though.
    If this (performing) is something you would like to do, then you will have to take control and do it. You may always have "stage fright" and it may be hell every time before a performance, but let me assure you that the rewards (and I'm not talking about money here) are well worth the agony.
    Good luck and I hope one day to hear you sing.

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  • BloodRedAndTrue
    10 years ago

    normal, but dont let it stop you. i bet your voice is wonderful.

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