Is it normal to want other's perspective's on boyfriend female roommate

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Would appreciate others perspective's on boyfriend female roommate. Here I go - Have been with bf for 3 yrs now, moved in 2 yrs ago. His fiancé, now ex moved out months before we met. His female roommate ( he met thru school) YEARS ago moved in when they moved from NS to Clgry. She is in her late 20's now. She is always wanting to be a part of what we do and puts on a hurt act when we don't - chooses not to go out and sits in her room every night if we don't. He has purposely not told her things we do in order to not upset her which I get pissed off with him for. She is constantly relying on him for help eg) is buying a scooter but gets him to look at it and had him call the sellers to talk about it and wants him to take her to pick it up ( why not drive it home ?). Has a quad and until I moved in, wouldn't load it herself onto the truck till I barked at her - You wanna take it out, you load it. She doesn't drive and complains when she has to drive one of his trucks by herself to go quading. Used to be slob/pig of leaving messes around the house (her room is a hoarders room) again till I barked at her and got barked at by the bf of how I barked at her. She has come home from work and hung herself over his shoulders as him and I were talking at a table. Am getting very tired of this neediness of hers and as I have told him comes across like he needs her to need him.

Some advice anyone ?

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    Sounds like she has some daddy issues. Men are easily blinded by a woman's attention. Bottom line-someone has to go. Namely, the female roommate, but if the boyfriend goes maybe you and her could work something out ;) J/k... the damn scunt. Emotion rules my spirit on this one, take someone else's advice.

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  • Sog
    10 years ago

    I had a female roommate once and there was definitely none of this stuff going on. We just kind of did our own thing.

    Then her boyfriend moved in like 4 months into her stay and this tension kept on building up until we finally snapped at each other. Needless to say when the lease was up we both got out of there.

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  • Karmasbitch
    10 years ago

    Man, your boyfriend is livin it up, having two girls wanting him.
    Wouldn't that be lovely? I think he is defending her because it feels good to have so much 'love' coming his way. Which is wrong to do to you, because he should be putting all of his effort to make you comfortable, and happy.
    So it's normal that you feel that way, but it's not right of him to be defending his ego.
    I'm not sure if I'm 'right' or 'wrong' but it's just my thoughts on this.

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  • Hottigene
    10 years ago

    Yes its normal for you.to.be upset it sounds like she thinks that he is her Boyfriend How does he feel about all this.

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    • Confidant13
      10 years ago

      Thank you so much for the comment - Says he thinks I am over reacting and being insecure. That they are long time friends and that he feels nothing for her. I had replied, It is not cool or respectful for someone to act like that, that girlfriends do not need to watch another female hang themselves on someone elses significant other and that he is not her keeper of her constant relying on him to decide things for her - she is not a child and needs to grow up.
      Awedly enough a similar situation happened while out last night - I sure don't get behaviors nowadays or what is being deemed as normal - people should be able to walk around feeling/touching or caressing whoever they want when the mood strikes ? And those of us who don't appreciate the act, regarless how small - were the ones called insecure ? Seriously ?

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      • Hottigene
        10 years ago

        It sounds like your a lady with a good head on her shoulders Sweetheart and I dont think you should have to put up with this you seem like such a nice Sweet Girl and I Hate to see you Hurt I wish I was there to hold you util you felt Better Love! If he dont change I would tell him thats It!

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