Is it normal to want my ex more than my current lover of 2 years

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I have been with my current lover for 2 years. We are good friends more than anything. I have enjoyed the sex, but I am still more attracted to other women. She drives me crazy in many ways, and to be honest I really have never let my guard down with her. But, we have been there for each other.

So my ex is back in town. She and i were great together, best friends. I felt I could say anything to her, and do anything with her. I think she is the most beautiful woman I have ever known.

My ex contacted me for the first time in years. She said she would love to see me. My current girlfriend may be upset, and I don't want to hang out with both of them together. But I would love to see my ex!!! What should I do?

Ignore my ex 6
Have a cup of coffee (no alcohol) with my ex 11
Go have fun with my ex and suffer the consequences with my lover 3
Spend time with my current lover and ex together 4
Go out for ONE drink with my ex 3
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  • WhiteStallion
    9 years ago

    You only like your current girl for sex and the occasional support...you don't love her so either work things out with her or leave her. Sometimes we go for something that looks new or more exciting when we have all we need anyway and then realize it too late. Your gf sounds like less drama to me but if you can't get over your ex have the decency to let your gf know you're going to visit her or leave her before you get involved with your ex.

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    Dump your current girlfriend ... If you have these feelings about an ex she deserves someone who wants to be with her and her only. You meeting up an ex you miss is NOT okay.

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    • pastor_of_muppets
      9 years ago

      He should dump his girlfriend and meet his ex who has gained 730 pounds and a skin condition.

      I hope that happens.

      Then he runs back to his girlfriend and she sets him on fire

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      • (s)aint
        9 years ago

        hahaha I hope that happens too!

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  • jellokatt
    9 years ago

    whatever does or doesn't happen with the ex, move on. you don't really love the girl you're with if you have those sorts of feeling for another girl (which may be real, or they may be imagined to try to get you out of the situation you're in now). it's not fair to you, and it's not fair to your current GF.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    You KNOW what's gonna happen. You are walking on very thin ice. Ur gonna end up getting attached to your ex and it's gonna cause all kinda of shit in ur current Rship. It doesn't really sound like you love the person u are with anyway. Do them a solid, and break up. Then u can stop leading her on and go screw around with ur ex.

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  • ginsters101
    9 years ago

    if you meet up with your ex you ARE going to fuck her, whether its for coffee and chat, 'one drink', whatever. You will end up in bed.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    Limit your contact to a telephone conversation only.

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  • modernism
    9 years ago

    Going out for "ONE" drink or some coffee is bound to lead to something more - whether it be a romantic or sexual relationship. And you know that.

    That's like buying a cake, staring at it, and telling yourself you are not going to eat the dessert. 20 minutes later, you're bound to find yourself devouring it.

    It seems like you're really invested in this ex and your current partner is "more of a good friend than anything". Spare your partner the time and leave her. She doesn't deserve to be with someone who can't give all his attention to her. She'll be heartbroken - yeah. But in the long run, it's better for her. Personally, I'd rather be single than in a one-sided relationship.

    Ultimately, it's up to you. Just don't meet up with your ex if you're still with your partner. Either eat the cake, or don't by it at all.

    Question - is this "partner" a girlfriend or a wife...?

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Your ex is probably your ex for some very good reasons, which time have mellowed.
    Don't be fooled into thinking you can go back, because it just doesn't work that way. She will have had other men (as you have had other women) and unless you are both saints, this will be a problem, at some point.
    Tell her you'd rather not and set your sights on your future, not your past.

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    • modernism
      9 years ago

      "Tell her you'd rather not..."

      It seems to me that he rather would. OP kind of describes his ex as something more than just a girl to hook up with - not to mention he's not exactly ga-ga over his current partner. He didn't even have any option for "Stay with current partner".

      I wouldn't really risk getting his partner in a relationship that he doesn't really care for.

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