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The other night I woke up to find myself soaking wet due to a dream I had that night. The thing is, is that the dream was more of a nightmare. It was a flashback of something that had happened a year ago and the sex wasn't consented to. I hated the dream and what actually happened so why am I having an orgasm?
I'm a guy, so I can't speak from personal experience, but I understand that it is possible for a woman to wake up having an orgasm. Some women can reach orgasm just by thinking about having one, so it's entirely possible for a woman to have an orgasm as the result of a dream, although it may feel different to one reached by physical stimulation.
Investigations into female sexuality have found that it's normal for women to become _physically_ aroused by just about any sexually-charged situation. There have been studies where women were shown various videos while they had sensors in their vaginas to measure blood-flow and lubrication. Any video showing sexual activity - even a video of chimpanzees mating - resulted in some degree of physical arousal. But when the women were asked which clips they found arousing, they rated them very differently to what their physical response suggested would be the case.
In "Come as You Are" by Emily Nagoski, she says there's about a 50% overlap between male genital response and how aroused the guy feels. For women, there's about a 10% overlap between blood flow to the genitals and how turned on the woman actually feels. In other words, there's not much correlation between the woman's feelings of arousal, and what's physically happening in her genitals. The term for this is "arousal nonconcordance". It's entirely normal, but since it's not widely known, it can make women feel very confused and maybe even result in them questioning what they "really" wanted in a sexual situation.
It's not that uncommon for a woman to really want to have sex, but for there to be very little vaginal lubrication.
It's also not unknown for women to reach orgasm when they are raped. Even though they hate what's being done to them, and they may indeed be terrified and certain that they're going to be murdered, the clitoris is stimulated in the way necessary to produce an orgasm and one occurs. That doesn't mean that they secretly wanted to be raped. All it means is that they had a physiological response to sexual stimulation.
If your psychotic aunt Betty demands that you have even more of her chocolate cake and, when you decline, she pins you down and crams yet another slice in your mouth, the cake is still going to taste sweet, even though you really, really don't want it. It's a purely physiological response.
I suggest you have a look at "Come as You Are" by Emily Nagoski. This is a very positive and highly informative book about women's sexuality.
There's a summary of some of Nagoski's key points here: http://www.wbur.org/radioboston/2015/03/12/emily-nagoski
you said you woke up soaking wet. Were you only wet between your legs or did you actually feel the orgasm? I'm inclined to believe you woke up in a sweat due to terror.