Is it normal to turn from insecure to (a lot more) confident overnight?

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Nobody who knows me is aware of it, but my younger years sucked. As a result, I have absolutely no social life and had, Christmas last year, decided enough was enough. I stopped blaming people for the way I was looked at and treated and started looking at myself. I've since then gone down several sizes, turned my diet around in general, started trying to dress better, got rid of my greasy Bieber cut, started fixing my hygiene, starting working on some health issues I let run rampant, am going to go to the gym, and just tried to open myself up more. However, the paranoia that people are staring at me all the time has remained.

Despite the fact that I am still struggling massively with it, having its up and downs, and despite the fact I'm still trying to figure out how to kickstart a normal social life, since Friday this paranoia just disappeared. After a few drinks, I walked home with one of my colleagues and noticed people just really don't seem to care all that much about you. I've pondered on it all weekend, wondering if it was just the alcohol. I decided to just let out a deep sigh as I closed my home's front door behind me today and tried to act as if nobody cares about me. And it worked. And I've never felt so conflicted before.

How can something I've struggled with for years change so radically overnight? Is this normal?

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Based on 11 votes (8 yes)
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  • ArayaLioness
    9 years ago

    Happened for me. It can happen. It's normal. It only takes a sudden realization for someone's outlook to change.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I do not think it is at all normal, but as I've been trying to say for nearly 2 years it is very, very healthy.
    No doctor, drug or gawd is going to get someone to change; that must be done as you have done it, intentionally and with purpose.
    Congratulations. Great job. Now you can look forward to a grand time on this planet and live the good life.
    I hope others on here are inspired by your post to "just do it", too.

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  • cosmictripster
    9 years ago

    Not sure if it's normal but it sounds like a good thing. I don't recommend drugs to anyone as that's their own choice, but sometimes they (alcohol in this case) can help you get over beliefs that hold you back in an instant. Sometimes a change in perspective is all you need. However, don't rely on drugs to solve your problems. That's on you. Anywho, cheers to the new leaf man!

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