Is it normal to truly love someone and still want to have an open relationship?

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Everything seemed to be fine with my boyfriend... I loved him more than ever... and according to him, it was the same from his side...

However... he told me once that he thought we were so close that we could finally take our relationship to the next level: an open relationship.

Of course I reacted bad... he told me I should be more openminded... I told him that if he thinks like that it means he doesnt love me... he said I was too narrow minded.

So... is it normal? can 2 people have an open relationship and still claim to love each other like no one?

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Based on 84 votes (34 yes)
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  • shade_ilmaendu
    12 years ago

    The people above me are idiots.

    Now, it's possible he's being a dick. It's also entirely possible that he's polyamorous, and there's nothing wrong with that. The only reason humans do the "mate for life" thing is because of morals instilled by fear in the dark ages when the catholic church made the law, but we are biologically more similar to animals that do have multiple partners. (dolphins and monkeys for example)

    I'm in an open relationship. Its also the most stable, caring relationship I've ever been in with a guy I know I'm probably gonna end up marrying. But I made the call to make it open because I feel people need to have that freedom... Dating someone doesn't imply ownership, and everyone seems to think they have this huge claim on their significant others person. No one even questions if it's right to control someone that much...

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  • IThinkTooMuch86
    12 years ago

    If I had a girlfriend who I loved, and she said that to ME, I'd be pissed. Like wtf, are you not satisfied with just me? I'd tell her to feel free and go do some other guys, but she better not expect me to be here as her "go-to" guy when she has no one else.

    That's messed up, I'd tell him off. He doesn't love you, he's just saying that to try and keep you with him while he plays you.

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  • TyLee
    13 years ago

    No way!!!! Get out now he is playing you that is so messed up! I feel so so sorry for you! Break up now!!! Never speak to this jerk off ever again.

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  • risarai
    13 years ago

    i agree with most of the comments above to be honest if a guy can not be happy wit just u then how can u claim to love u wat u need is someone who can be there for u and only u

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  • xloverobsessed
    13 years ago

    I had to to

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  • xloverobsessed
    13 years ago

    Guys are pigs and u gotta deal

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  • Layla32
    13 years ago

    He is an asshole!Get rid of him! He doesn't deserve you!Your too good for him!

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  • wkt7676
    13 years ago

    From a guys point of view, it appears u are not enough to fulfill his needs, let him go because u deserve better

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  • Black.Berry
    13 years ago

    I'm kinda experiencing the same thing w my fiancee..I'll pray for both of us.funny but sad...

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  • tarebear19
    13 years ago

    He's bored with you :( Time to move onto the next

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