Is it normal to touch guys discreetly?

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First and foremost, I am a 22 year old male.

Ever since I was young, I always craved for male affection. But since I didn't have any brothers, let alone any male friends, it was very difficult to get any sort of male affection at all. The fact that my dad was cold and distant towards me didn't help either. We don't even have a fatherly-son bond. In other words, he's just like a total stranger to me in my eyes.

Growing up, I was alone most of my life and the interactions I have with fellow males had always been awkward. I was a very, very sad boy. I craved for male affection day n' night. About 80% of my thoughts revolve around love between males. And every night, I like to pretend that a guy is holding me to sleep to keep me all warm and fuzzy. It... it helps me sleep at night, ya know?

Because of my lack of male affection, I eventually developed a strange habit of touching guys discreetly... very discreetly.

For example, when a guy at school walks pass me in the hallway, I'll discreetly rub my arm against his arm. When a guy is sitting next to me in class, I'll pretend to accidentally touch his hand with my hand. When I'm in a crowded hallway that's packed with mostly guys, I'll make sure to touch them in EVERY way I could as much as possible. The more guys I do it to, the better--especially if they're cute.

By touching them physically, it makes me feel connected to them--almost like a bonding sort of connection. It makes me so happy to touch a male. In fact, it's even better if they accidentally touch me. It's like I've never seen or touched a male in my life, besides myself of course.

is it normal at all? I've done this as a little boy and I'm still doing it at 22 years old, and would most likely continue on doing it until I find a boyfriend that will give me all his love and affection that I so deserved.

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  • Koda
    8 years ago

    If you replace "guys" with "people" I can relate. When I feel really lonely, I find myself trying to "accidentally" touch people.

    I had a friend in HS that I could tell used to use any excuse to touch me/hug me. I didn't mind. I sort of felt bad because I could tell he was lonely and probably deeply closeted. He was very good-looking, but only ever dated unattractive girls. I think he really couldn't accept his bisexual/gay side. All he would allow himself to do was get as close to his male friends as possible, both physically and emotionally. I think he's still with a girl now, but he's never seemed happy to me :( I've told him he could open up to me, but he's never taken me up on it.

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    • DukeMania
      8 years ago

      Aw, that's sweet. Can you touch me too? Please I wanna touch you so badly. Today I was at a public place and an old man accidentally touched me, and honestly I wasn't too fond of it at all, purely because of the fact that I prefer to get touched by young guys or guys who are around my age.

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      • Koda
        8 years ago

        I'm 96 . . . jk

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  • Dansktex
    7 years ago

    I think what you are doing is fine. I find myself wanting to touch another human when I travel for extended periods of time by myself. There are so many subtle ways to do it--touching fingers when receiving a receipt or having your credit card returned, letting your knee lean against that of the person beside you on the train or plane, taking an offered hand for a handshake in BOTH your hands making it seem an ultra sincere gesture, etc. If you crave it enough, you can ride buses or subways during rush hours, go into the pit at concerts, push in closely around street entertainers, etc. Maybe you could take an adult-education class in giving massage; then you could offer free massages to others. Be creative in your thinking, and PLAN ways to get your touching fix.

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  • 7114garrett
    8 years ago

    It's called frottage.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Haven't you ever heard of 'personal space'?
    Every time you 'touch guys (anyone) discreetly', you invade their personal space. And you are doing this just to make yourself feel good?
    You should stop this immediately. It is just not right, and probably downright dangerous.

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    • Koda
      8 years ago

      I don't think most people would think someone brushing past them was an invasion of personal space, and if they did, I'd wonder about them... In public you're bound to make occasional physical contact with others. I think if people didn't take space invasion so seriously, they might be able to view being touched as a short-lived interpersonal connection. After all, actions speak louder than words.

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