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my gf wants to have sex with me but im scared that it might ruin our relationship. she says not to worry about it but i still do! i'm scared that maybe i won't be able to look at her the same way that i do now and i don't want that to change.is it normal to be scared like this? what do i do?
Don't be silly cover your willy.
I've been trying to get my girlfriend to put out for a year but now that she's willing to I'm not even sure that I do because like you said I won't look at her the same we won't have that innocent part between us anymore. I totally get what your saying.
Well I think u should. Be scarred. I've been in relationships where it was perfect the way i liked it then the guy wanted sex I had been afraid it ruin it but I let them in the past have sex and well it did ruin the relationship. So. I do agree. Don't do it yet until ure seriously like get married or move in together. Sex F's your relationships and it F'S u up too
It's normal to worry about that. You sound like you're not ready to have sex with her, and if you don't feel ready, you shouldn't do it. You could come to regret it later. If you're planning on pursuing this girl seriously, however, consider that you can't put off sex forever. (Well, you can, but you have to make sure your partner is ok with that.) Because of this, you should look into the real reasons why you're scared.
If you think you're too young, I advise you to wait until you're older and feel ready. Same applies if you think it's too early in the relationship. Sex is messy and it's scary, and definitely not something you should do if you're not ready and 100% comfortable with your partner and your commitment to her. If it's not because of that--is it because you'd think less of her if she was willing to have sex with you? That you'd start to see her as a sexual item rather than a person? If so, you have some hang-ups about your sexuality that you need to work with before doing something like that. Alternatively, you could make a decision to wait until marriage, so that the solidification of commitment would ease the impact.
Whatever you choose, don't do it unprepared. And speaking of preparation--don't forget birth control. It's very important! At the very least, wear a condom.
Uhh... Wha? What do you think most people in relationships do? And yeah, sex will make you look at them differently because you both become more comfortable with one another the less there is to hide.
But more to the point, if you're thinking about it like this you probably aren't ready for sex yet, and that's a reason to abstain until you feel it's right for you. You sound rather young.
My advice, tell her what you just told us and the two of you work out what to do together. :)
I think not sex has a tendency of ruining relationships.
Just ease into it. Have a night of everything but.
Depends how long you two have been going out and how deep a connection you two really have. She probably thinks it will bring you two even closer (coz that's the way women think) but if it's too soon for you, tell her you'd rather wait a while. Don't be pressurised into ever doing anything you don't want to do.