Is it normal to think young engagements are stupid?

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An acquaintance of mine recently got "engaged" to her on/off boyfriend at 21, him being 19. Later in the evening she tried to convince my 20 year old friend to get engaged to her 22 year old boyfriend of only a year.

This may sound like I'm fixating on one anomalous person but I feel I'm hearing more and more about this, girls especially, seriously wanting to be and even getting "engaged" as young as 17 before they even move out of their poor parents' houses.

What is the point? Are teen/early twenties romances not infamous as short, melodramatic train wrecks? How do you know you will want your "finance" in a year, yet alone for " as long as you both shall live"? Just a few short years ago you were going through your goth phase and bragging about trying your first cigarette and now you want to be wedded in holy matrimony?

These people fail to consider the logistics of it, they have never lived with their "finance" and do not have university degrees, stable jobs, or serious long term plans. They just have this hazy daydream, probably focusing more on the wedding day than actual married life, of showing off their relationship, promising forever, being "us against the world" and all the usual cliches. They don't think of the divorce rate of 42% in the UK.

You may have noticed I use quotation marks for "engaged" and "finance" because, let's be honest most of these "engagements" are called off anyway and most of them go the whole way and break up completely, leaving them both looking like idiots.

So basically young engagements (22 or younger) are poorly thought through, doomed and generally embarrassing. Thoughts?

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  • Sara0303
    7 years ago

    Agreed, it's stupid. 80% of marriages of people under 25 end in divorce

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  • matthewkoehler
    7 years ago

    I agree with you, generally I think that people who "tie the knot" before their early to mid twenties do eventually become unsatisfied with their relationships. I think people should live a little and enjoy their youth without having to worry about settling down and taking on bigger responsibilities. Also committing to someone before you have really experienced much of what life has to offer can be a mistake and a form of limiting oneself.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    Young engagements are actually ideal for a woman, so long as the man is financially stable. Early twenties is where a woman looks her best and can have the healthiest kids. The wall hits them hard at 30 and you don't want to risk children after 35.

    So young marriages aren't a terrible thing, so long as there's some amount of maturity between them.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      But my point is that they're not financially stable those of them that even have jobs are part time minimum wage. These people can barely look after themselves, their mummies still do that for them. I dread to think what would happen if they produced a child.

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      • riffraffy
        7 years ago

        Relying heavily on your parents to help raise your kid is nothing new. But yes, not having a job or just making enough to get by is rough. But kids have been raised in less-than-ideal circumstances for centuries.

        Having a kid and being forced into adulthood rapidly isn't easy. But my point is that it isn't terrible, either. Current thinking is to wait until perfect settings arrive, but the downside is that it causes too many women to settle down too late.

        Being career-focused and politically correct is one thing, but the reality of mother nature is another. Good advice for a young woman is to find a high-value man and settle down sooner rather than later.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          Ok I see your points about not waiting too long and circumstances never being perfect, but would you call a 19 year old part-time bar tender with no plans of higher education a "high-value man"?

          There is also the issue of immaturity as most of these people (not all of them girls I should mention) are impulsive, self-centred and highly emotional. For instance, on the evening that prompted my post, the 21 year old ran crying out of the restaurant we ate at without paying her £35 of the bill, after a very loud angry phone argument with her "finance". It seems utterly bizarre to me for someone so childish to be contemplating something as serious as marriage.

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    • LittleGirlRapedAndSodomised#P3
      7 years ago

      Wow, that's the truth. In case your new here people on this website hate reality with a sincere hatred, a hatred so deep there's trash rotting in the backroom that's so rank to the point of decomposition they've gotten used to the smell of their surroundings but nonetheless shovel it out the window on occasion whenever they're forced to face their own FILTH.

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      • Fugazi,again
        7 years ago

        Where are you BITCH

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  • Maaa114
    7 years ago

    Boring

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Thank you for this insight.

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  • IMissMary
    7 years ago

    Marriage itself is stupid.

    Any male thinking of marriage needs to step back and think it over and then think it over more....and more and more until he wakes up

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  • Goku19
    7 years ago

    Early marriage is good when guy starts earning money at early age 18-22 and girl will surely enjoy new home of a nice husband.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      These clowns barely have two pennies to rub together, unless you're counting their parents money.

      I don't know where they plan to live, if they've even thought of that, but realistically they'll end up with one of their families. No nice homes for the poor here in London.

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