Is it normal to think that doing sex or just having desire makes me sub-human?

I am raised in a religious family. Ever since young, I have been holding to a belief that someone who did sex is a lowly human/lowly creature. Ever since young, I have no sex fantasy, until one day I had a wet dream when I was 20 years old. Ever since then I realized I am also part of sexual creatures, that I will someday put "sexual need" as my "to-be-filled list". But the belief I have been holding that I am a "decent" man makes me "hate" or rather "resent" my own desire to fulfill that sexual need someday.

Ever since primary school, whenever my male friends talked about a girl (even just talk about pretty girls in the class with no sexual content or whatsoever), I have always been trying to withdraw from the conversation. By doing that, I have been feeling like I'm doing the "right" thing and somehow I have been indeed above average in term of achievement compared to my male friends cohort. So there was perhaps an ingrained belief that my "sex-less" habit was correlated to my achievements.

The concern now is that I feel less "manly" than my average male friends. When I see my male friends holding their girlfriends' hands, somehow I could not imagine I may perhaps do the same thing one day. But I just feel it is not aligned to my whole being.
I am in mid twenties now by the way. In term of career and achievement, I'm doing good. I have been independently living with myself ever since my teen. I have been overseas for my bachelor degree and then working and renting house.

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Comments ( 10 )
  • Princess18

    They're is nothing wrong with feeling like this. God loves you as you are, it's something you can't help but happen. It's normal. :)

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  • Gspyder

    This is ridiculous.

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  • Short4Words

    I'm no priest or pastor, but coming from someone of faith I think your aversion to women is sad. Man was made to want a woman. You don't have to whore yourself out but you shouldn't feel this way.

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  • howaminotmyself

    Sex is very human. Can't exactly make more humans by not doing the sex.

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  • Ellenna

    You're a victim of a sex hating fundamentalist christian upbringing and I feel very sad for you: I'd call it spiritual abuse.

    You obviously believe in god: you have an intelligent brain for a reason, so use it to get rid of the brainwashing you've been subjected to. For example, have a think about the fact that if it weren't for the "sub-human" sexual act you wouldn't even be here and neither would the people who've brainwashed you.

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  • AlexC4

    I don't know what particular religious background you come from. I am a Christian, and can speak from this perspective. Having desires for or attractions to women is a natural thing, and by no means makes you "sub human"--that's actually part of your humanity. In the beginning, when God created the earth, he made a Man and a Woman, and gave them to each other. Sex, physical touch, etc. are all God's idea. He invented it all! Now, because of sin, such things can become corrupted, and abused, and done wrongly. Sex is supposed to be between one man and one woman, together in the covenant of marriage.

    But there is still normal attraction, and I believe that physical intimacy of certain types is permissible before marriage as well. Holding hands, kissing, embracing. But sex is a gift best enjoyed in marriage.

    Now, in terms of you NOT feeling this way very frequently, please let me tell you this: THAT'S OK! You are by no means "less manly" or "less of a man" because you don't feel, act, talk, or think the same way as your guy friends. You are a man because God has made you a man. In the Bible, St. Paul also talks about how some people are called to singleness, because they are not as effected by abstaining from intimacy with the other sex. He calls that a blessing, because you're able to focus on God more, and His work. I don't know where you stand today in your faith, but the God who made you loves you, and would be equally happy to see you married to the right woman, in a relationship that is full of love, and committed to Him, or if you remain single, and do what you can for Him that way.

    Take heart :) I hope this has helped

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  • thegypsysailor

    Wow, I am so pleased you feel that way. I'm sure the world will be a better place if you continue thinking "doing sex or just having desire makes me sub-human" if you don't procreate, and propagate that manure.

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  • Thorolf

    Nothing wrong with your desires for sex, it's human nature to want to mate.

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  • Crusedes|

    I have always wanted to eat out thegypsysailor's hairy ass bruh

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    • Thorolf

      You need help.

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