Is it normal to think that attractiveness is the basis for all beginnings

Physical attractiveness starts it off, personality carries it on. But, without that attractivness to start off with, you barely have a chance.

I see what you're saying. I think the physical attraction is a lot of times the first thing that pulls someone in, and then from there they see how beautiful or yucky the person is on the inside. Or there's people who are pulled in by the way someone looks, yet, still never look deep enough within the person to see anything else. And it just turns into a fuck and chuck. I hate that nonsense. Its very rare for someone to notice the person behind the mask.

In college I met a guy who I would normally probably never notice right away, or at all, to be quite honest. But I remember, the more we talked everyday, the more I began to like him. It got to the point where I would wonder where he was if he was a no show in class. He was so funny! Whenever I was with him he knew how to make me laugh, and he was nice too. On the days when I felt really nasty and not confident at all, he'd always try to bring me back up again. He also helped me with my math work, which by the way, I sucked at math! But he was so smart! I liked him a lot at the time. But one day, I got upset because he asked me to send him a naked picture on my phone. I thought it was rude for him to ask something like that. I didn't think he was like that, but I guess he was. I haven't seen or spoken to him since then, though.

You obviously are young and lack life experience.

Its true and it sucks for us ugly people.

Totally normal . This is also my opinion .

I don't know why but the opposite works for me if I see someone who is over groomed or what most people would day is attractive I tend to not want to bother.

It's what's on the inside that counts, but why bother checking what's on the inside if the outside is not worth the effort.

Think of it this way: You wouldn't buy an ugly car because it's comfortable. (most people anyway) In fact, you wouldn't even know it's comfortable because you wouldn't bother to test-drive an ugly car.
That way you end up with a car that's comfortable and good-looking.

Same for people. Why would you even talk to an unattractive person if you can rather search for a someone with a good personality among the good-looking people?

While that's often true, we're on a website where most of us can't see each other. I know for sure that people here have been attracted to other people here without knowing how they look. Physically attraction is only one method of attraction. There are others and often they come into play, even when you're face to face with the person.

I've always hated how people say that because if your not pretty then people dont really give you a chance.. Its always the people who look beautiful that get a chance. They do say something about only good looking people mate or something like that... :/

You have kind of a point, but I think you might be overthinking it a little?

You know that saying, "never judge a book by its cover?" That could arguably be impossible as well! Something's gotta grab your attention before you decide this is the book for you, after all.

But when you think, "cover", that tends to put in mind just the pretty picture on the front. Not the tons of different things you process just from the sight. We don't like to acknowledge it, but we instantly make a lot of judgement on sight, whether it's true or not. Sometimes those things are what attract you. A lady might initially catch your eye simply because of the way she's sitting, giving off the vibe of someone super friendly. Just cause you're looking at it doesn't mean it's sex-related.

As people that's our basis of judgement and most of us are quite critical of others looks but I mean if you want to pick up someone attractive is the bar or pub a great idea,crazy ass people get picked up at the bar!

Totally normal and cool.
Call me whatever names you like. Personality is FANTASTIC but I can't make myself be attracted to someone. And if I am with someone that I am not attracted to, what are we? Just really good friends.

I agree that hot girls have a definate advantage. But you better have more to offer than that. I've dated some incredibly physically attractive women, but without that emotional connection they fizzled out. The most serious relationship i've had was with somebody i wouldn't have looked twice at. But, she was extremely intelligent and had a great sense of humor that won my heart. And it's amazing how someones inner self can influence your perception of the outer. She was absolutely beautiful in my eyes because i was madly in love with her. I'm 29 now, i've outgrown that superficial bullshit of my youth, not to say i'm not susceptible to the charms of a beautiful woman. Looks will fade in time, personality will most likely not.

for men it's all about the physical looks of a woman.
for women it's all about how he makes her "feel".