Is it normal to think she is using me?

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I am friends with this girl, I try to make her feel good and comfortable around me, we have great conversations, and I even bought her a few nice gifts. I am really attracted to her and she knows it. She always tells me about her boyfriend and one time they had a fight and she was really upset and I let her cry on my shoulder and then we cuddled. I let her know I am available to offer support whenever she needs it. Right around that time she had the fight with her boyfriend, I asked her if he was treating her right and if not then she should find a better guy. She replied that even though she was upset, she was confident that things would eventually work out between them. I am a virgin and I really want to date her, and sometimes I feel that she likes me as more than a friend. She is really herself around me but I get the impression that she is kind of intimidated by her boyfriend. I don't know why she prefers him over me if he keeps treating her bad. Me and her we have a great emotional connection better than anything she has with him. I think she just enjoys my company and playful flirting and keeping me around forever.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    She may be using you, or she may see you as a friend she can rely on. Hang in there, even if she never becomes your lover friendship usually lasts longer anyway.

    I guess it depends on how much you value the prospect of becoming lovers over friendship: you seem like a good person and that may win out in the end

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    • Docholiday
      8 years ago

      Agree 100%

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        Thanks!

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  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    I hate the term, but you are completely and utterly 'friendzoned' here.
    Is she using you? Well, yeah ..as a friend, because that's what you are.
    Yes, I'm sure she flirts with you and leads you on a bit, just to keep you interested and to feed her own ego, or whatever. But you also know she has a boyfriend...so basically the line is very clear, which means she can flirt with you all she wants and then say, "but you know I have a boyfriend!?" and not feel like she's done anything wrong.

    It seems like she's getting much more out of the relationship than you are, so unless you're happy being in that position, I'd avoid her.

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  • Sleepforever
    8 years ago

    Where where you when you guys were cuddling? Maybe she was nervous to say something else because the people that know her bf were around? Do you have the same interests as her? Just keep her company maybe one day you guys will end up together you never know!

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  • Darkoil
    8 years ago

    You sound about as useful as a wet flannel. It's nice to be nice and everything but women want a real man, snaking her away with emotional understanding may win you the battle but acting like a pussy all the time will lose you the war.

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago

      It's the men treat women well and with emotional understanding who are the REAL men

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      • Darkoil
        8 years ago

        Yeah and that's why at the minute this guy is at most her gay bff. She was upset and instead of going to one of her female friends she goes to him, on some level she probably wanted him to man up and use his dick.

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        • Ellenna
          8 years ago

          That's all wild guesswork: he didn't say he was gay and obviously isn't and how on earth could you possibly know what she wants? Real men are much more than their dicks

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    • rimjob
      8 years ago

      Amen brother, but I think I'm slightly more cut and have a better 6 pack.

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  • Croemelm
    8 years ago

    The best way to flirt is to chaff and turn the tables. Pretend as if she wanted to pick up you and joke about it. Go here http://bestdatingproductreviews.com/make-women-want-you-review for examples. You can learn them by heart or modify them to be sure that it's original and only you use it. It's also the best way to find out if this girl you are talking with have a sense of humor and a distance to herself. If she doesn't take offence then it's ok. If she does take offence - that's ok too! With such a person you would only torment and you would also need to mind your words all the time. It's her problem, not yours.

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  • andra
    8 years ago

    Don't buy a woman a gift unless you are dating her exclusively. If you want her tell her. You should not be trying to have a relationship while she is already in one.

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago

    She has issues. She shouldn't be tolerating intimidation, and should have closed the door on this guy long before now. It's not a good sign.

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  • DBFYM
    8 years ago

    Exactly she's just scared how her boyfrienf may react if he found out ya was doing something.U should consider making a move before she gets with this guy again nd maybe u'll have the chance to impress her

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  • rimjob
    8 years ago

    After a fight with her boyfriend you two were cuddling, at this time is when you should have made your move, but didn't. From that point on in all likelihood she sees you as a beta-male and rightfully so, virgin. You only get one chance on this level with a woman and you blew it, now you are being used as her TheRapist. Move on.

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