Is it normal to think she is cheating on me?

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Okay so I've got some serious suspicions as to whether or not the misses is being untrue. We've been dating a little over a month.
1) she's constantly texting( both men and women)
2)I caught her texting an admitted booty call. However, she claims they are friends and keep in touch( I'm thinking she's literally keeping in touch. Hayyoooo)
3)I caught her texting another friend saying "I want to get rid of him but I love him"( don't think she was talking about me, but can't be sure)
4)The first night I was supposed to stay with her(her place)we were laying in bed and someone started banging at the door. She didn't get up. Shortly after she insisted I went home. Was it a fear of intimacy as she later claimed or did the part time pounder come knockin?
5)I talked to a mutual friend and they said she has a friend(male)that she hangs out with sometimes. But thinks they are just friends.(much to his dismay btw)
6)She has recently told me she quit seeing someone else when we started dating to be with me.(see #3, possible link)
7)She seems to have this obsessive notion that I'm cheating on her.(completely unfounded)This is a classic trait of women who are cheating.(accusing the other partner)

Unfortunately, none of this is solid proof that she is being unfaithful. But, where there's smoke there's usually fire. I would typically end things like this. However, I do really care for her and we click on so many levels.(never mind the bitch part in the intro). I've asked her about all this and got the response that she was offended and a genuinely loyal person and would never dream of doing such a base thing. What to do?

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  • GnR66627
    12 years ago

    Instead of coming out and asking if she's cheating, explain things to her exactly as you just did here. She will then need to come up with a reason for each of those things. I know you've mentioned them all before, but it's important to tell her how you perceive it, and also ask her how she would feel in that situation.

    Even if she isn't cheating, some of her behavior is suspicious/flat out inconsiderate. So if she isn't willing to explain without getting angry, then she probably doesn't care much about your feelings.

    But you know her better than I do obviously. I just know that even if the person I was with was not cheating, I would still have an issue with these other behaviors.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You and her need to get a grip! Be honest or get out!

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  • chaosdragoon1
    12 years ago

    Insecure people are hard to deal with sometimes and untrustworthy. They will be loyal to those who they THINK will make them feel secure. Even if it's only for a moment.

    But it's your choice. If you love her, you love her.

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