Is it normal to think my dad is abusive?

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Well, I'll start off at the beginning. I didn't have a very happy childhood, I was bullied, ignored by my parents as they favoured my younger sister, and my parents were constantly screaming at eachother. When I was around 5 my mum kicked out my dad, although on weekends me and my sister would visit him.

My dad generally isn't a very happy man, probably because hes old. (He was around 30 when he met my mum who was 16, my mum calls him a pedo. He also left his wife for my mum) Whenever me and my sister visited he would act annoyed by us and generally leave and ignore us. He always picked on me and tells me negative things about myself because I look almost exactly like my mum and my dad doesn't like her.

He constantly ignores me while pampering my sister. He buys her whatever she asks, while during my childhood he rarely bought me anything so I was left with not many clothes.

My mum had to give us up to him after she broke her back during work and it would be permanently damaged. My dad constantly argued with me.

He doesn't like it when I talk, even if I'm talking to my sister he will tell me to shut up.

I want to hate him but I can't, because he is also nice to me sometimes. He will occasionally be in a good mood and talk to me and joke and play around, but the day after he might be mean again. I also feel like I shouldn't hate him because he has been depressed over a break up and I feel like I should be there for him. I don't know if I should hate him or love him. I just wish he liked me more and actually try to show interest in me other then my sister :(

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  • laticiamarie
    8 years ago

    Your dad sounds like a horrible person. Its is not your responsibility to make sure he's OK, as your parent he should be reassuring you and ensuring that you're happy. As far as your sister goes he should be treating you both equally, because you're equal (durh) I wouldn't be surprised if you wind up resenting him later on in life, however for now I suggest you speak to him about it, it may just be the wake up call he needs. Good luck.

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  • snarkygirl
    8 years ago

    Sorry your family is fucked up. Most are to some degree of it makes you feel better.

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