Is it normal to think maybe i should have many different loves throughout life?

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I feel like I can't stay attached to any one thing for long (this includes jobs and interests) although sometimes may circle back to them. The one thing that remains constant is an abstract sort of passion and wonder. I fall in love with people and things I don't know and I understand them by falling in love with them. Once I figure out the mystery, I move on. I feel that life is a puzzle and there are many pieces that must be explored. Some things can fit together in unsuspecting ways.

I am better at establishing depth between myself and a lover than myself and a friend, but it's usually short lived. I feel like if I could just experience multiple lovers and their minds as I live out my years that I can open multiple aspects of myself and be content.

Is this normal and healthy or am I just afraid of commitment?

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  • regisphilbin
    9 years ago

    I think it's true that there are many fish in the sea. People often think they'll be devastated if they can't be with their "soul mate", but that is not how things work. Life goes on, and people find others who embody the qualities they find desirable.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    To each his own. I personally feel that there is only one and if I can't have that one, then I rather have no one.

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    Each love contributes a small but significant piece to that puzzle but one day you might find you want someone to stay and complete it with you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      That is a beautiful perspective.

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      • Fall_leaves
        9 years ago

        Thanks op, I hope you find what you're looking for.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    You know, I tend to think that way as well. I think that is how it is for most people.

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  • Short4Words
    9 years ago

    What if this person never stops surprising you, or challenging you, or helping you grow?

    Does such a thing exist?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      That would be ideal. Unfortunately, so far, my longest relationship was with a man with psychopathic tendencies. He always kept me guessing, for sure.

      Other than that I have been somewhat obsessed with a man of spontaneity who is quite out of reach. I figure if I ever did have the opportunity to get to know him intimately, the desire would cease.

      Still, deep down, I have hope that I will find this mystery man of a thousand faces in one burning flame.

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      • Short4Words
        9 years ago

        You're quite the poet.

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  • N227Anon
    9 years ago

    I feel that's how it should be

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