Is it normal to think i will die a virgin?

Well I am 26 with a good job, and I take the train every day to work from my parents house, but I don't have any social life. This is mostly because I'm shy. My brother is 17 and just graduated high school, and usually my parents would take me to hang out with his friends, which was just awkward. Recently my parents have been talking to me about how they're worried that because I'm so shy that I will never find a wife and get married. However I feel that marriage is something that comes later, after most people have already been in at least one relationship and dated a little. At this point my parents made it clear that if I don't find a girl by the time I'm 32, they will pick a girl themselves for me to marry. Obviously that's not ideal because both of us will feel like we were forced into it, and that would just give some random girl more reason to hate me, like I really needed help in that department. I really don't want it to come to that, but I don't think I have much choice in the matter, because never in my life have I ever been able to make a female interested in me. Maybe I'm just too boring.

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  • thegypsysailor

    Try moving out of your parents' house and see if that helps. I can't imagine any intelligent woman would be very interested in dating a 25 year old man(?) who still lives with mommy and daddy.
    It does bode well as a mate capable of providing for a family.

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  • Arm0se

    I feel like that sometimes too. My parents aren't forcing me to get married though. What country do you live in? Is a forced marriage even legal there?

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    • in America but my parents are first generation immigrants.

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  • KingTermite

    Life isn't all about marriage or sex. If you're happy without either, then it doesn't sound like there's a problem. If you're not happy, then it's your problem to deal with not your parents. If you're 26 and worried about what your parents think you have bigger problems than this marriage/sex thing anyway.

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  • Of course you have a choice. You can stand up to your parents and tell them you don't want any part of an arranged marriage, though you may then have to strike out on your own and support yourself, which is probably a good idea anyway. According to Wikipedia, "The United Nations views forced marriage as a form of human rights abuse, since it violates the principle of the freedom and autonomy of individuals." You have the option of remaining single, but your parents may not be happy about it.

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  • clevelandashkenaziatheist

    You need to leave your situation. It is poisonous to your psyche. Get your own place and start viewing the world outside the lens of your parents.

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  • modernism

    You're only 26. Most likely not even half way done with your life. You've got tons of time, don't worry.

    Don't rush into anything and definitely don't let your parents force you into anything. Years from now, you'll have someone. Just let it happen on its own.

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