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I've only met this girl this year. We've really clicked, but she seems FAR out of my league. I do genuinely like her though, but I'm curious. Is this normal?
Never know..I met a gorgeous, blonde, 5th Avenue NY-type woman at a social meeting, and we became friends. I always saw her as out of my league. She just had world-wide beauty, style, class, and definitely came from money. Then, talking to her one night, she said she'd "Definitely wanted to spend more time with me", in her usual, halting, breathy, sexy voice.
We went to dinner, our first official "date", and she looked amazing. I thought, sure..People will see us and think, oh, that's so nice of her to throw that guy a bone. I was wrong. Walking main street (very romantic) after dinner, arm in arm, she told me how she was attracted to me from the first meeting, wondered if I'd thought about her (uh, only since she walked in the door that first night), and tried looking her best for me. I was floored that this incredible, polished (including her red nails) beauty wanted..ME. You never know about the so-called out of your league women..
An intriguing experience, sir. And frankly, one that gives me hope. I don't know if I should ask her out to a date though. Plus I don't really know how to slip it into conversation.
Just keep relating to her and talking to her..I honestly saw "Liz" (name change) as miles out of my league, since she was just so fashion avenue gorgeous, cultured, and could have any guy she wanted. Had the high cheekbones, great smile, and sensual manner about her. Yet, as stated..She wanted to spend more time with me.
We met for lunch on main street one day, and I waited for her in front of the place. I watched her walk about a block, maybe little more, and guys were turning around, one by one, to look at her. Had to be five guys that did a 180 to eye her up. But, she was coming to me.
It's worth a shot..Don't sound desperate or intimidated..And make it a casual dinner, not a high-end place that looks like you're trying too hard to impress her. Women can smell that a mile away.. Heck, I had lunch with Liz at a nicer, somewhat upscale microbrew pub and restaurant. She loved it. Even fed me some of the sampler.
You need to lose that mentality...don't put her on a pedestal. Treat her like a human being. Problems arise when you idealize someone or treat them like a thing.
Just by thinking shes out of your league you lack confidence, its not gonna work. I've seen guys that think they've got someone better than they are, end up kissing their asses, getting used and turning them off.
Being out of your league contradicts the "we've really clicked". She likes you so go for it!
I agree with Murun. If you "clicked", then she doesn't see you as beneath her, so being out of her league was all in your head. I hope the dinner date goes well. Show some confidence, and best wishes!
When I met my wife I was a fuel pumper and mechanic at a truck stop. I was at a bar with a western band. I was dirty from work. We clicked. She was a college grad. I dropped out after the 9'th grade. She was a navy brat. Her dad was a officer. I had a rented 22 ft. trailer. She lived with her parents in a nice 4 bedroom house. We were much diff.
That was over 45 years ago when we married. I have seen beautiful rich girls date and marry bad boy bums.