Is it normal to think children first is a fallacy

This is not an anti-child or anti-breeding post. This post is logically wants to explain when children in a family are put first, then what happens is the spouse or significant other is left behind and not cared for up to 18 years or more. This type of thinking has led to communication breakdowns among partners, breakups and in the end, wrong ideas for what an ideal partner is in the minds of children. Regardless of our thoughts on former spouses or partners, putting in the minds of children that using a spouse is acceptable is not only ethical but not sustaining for any size family. When a spouse is put first, this allows guidance of both partners for children and allows children to see a stable relationship and sees that they will be cared for. No spouse or partner should have to wait eighteen years for their partner to be available. No one even for eighteen months will tolerate it.
The idea that it only takes one person to create a family is outrageous. A male and female model should be available for children in order to know their future role. It has been proven years of longitudinal studies of relationships that two-parent families set better role model standards and behaviors in children. It should be maintained that way or not have children together in a relationship. Simply living with each other is not a romantic relationship or any guarantee for relying on the other partner.
We have been having children for quite some time now, and why this is a difficult process now to accept that without two partners, we don’t produce children, in other words, alienating one spouse over the other sets a bad reputation in the mind of children. If we put spouses first, then when children grow up and move out, then spouses will always have each other and not worry their life feels empty. Marriage is a longitudinal relationship, not something that spontaneously that happens when you meet or by impulse.
In conclusion, putting spouse first allows relationships to last longer and in the past it has proven so to stage a better platform for families in ages to come and not ostracize a spouse and preset for children good manners and healthy relationships because working together allows better growth and better quality ties in the family.