Is it normal to think about the bad things that could happen in relationship?

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So I don't know why, but oftentimes I'll think about the things that could go wrong between my love and I, and what could lead to us braking up. I don't WANT this to happen, but I find myself thinking of it often. I feel like I'm just trying to mentally prepare myself for this?

Not sure why but maybe it could be because I'm afraid of succumbing to my depression again. Maybe I feel the need to prepare myself? I don't know. I want to believe, and surely hope that we'll always be together but some part of me..Idk, some annoying, small part of me tells me that it won't last forever.

Is this normal? Why would I possibly think of things like this? Maybe I'm just scared that he'll leave me and so by thinking about it I - to reiterate - am preparing myself? Idk.

We've been together for a little over a year I think and we've never had any issues so there's really no reason. Idk.

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  • LadyOfDecay♡
    9 years ago

    If you're really attatched to someone, its normal to be worried about losing them, aslong as it doesn't turn into a genuine problem which upsets you, your partner or causes issues in the relationship.

    I know its easier said than done, but you need to realise that if he's genuine about you, loves you, and if you have no real reason to believe he might end things with you, than you should try tell yourself not to worry. Truth be told, I sometimes used to worry about little things that might go wrong in my relationship, but the longer we stay together the more I realise that if we've never even had an argument before, I have absolutely no reason to worry.

    I realise I've refered to your significant other as a male and I apologise if you are a male and this post is about your girlfriend, but the advice remains the same for both genders. Your partner must love you and I'm sure you have no reason to worry. Don't let worrying ruin your happiness.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I'm sorry to hear you feel this way. Yes, it is normal. Your significant other is probably one of the most important things in your life, right? So being worried about losing them is a natural feeling. I know its not as easy as it sounds, but try not to worry so much. Unless there are clear as daylight signs that something is wrong with the relationship, then you really have no need to worry, and all it does is upset you and your partner.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    It's normal to have some insecurity in a relationship but I'd recommend you try to keep it in check. Insecurity tends to manifest itself in ugly ways and if your partner is secure in the relationship.

    I have been in relationships where I felt fairly secure and my partner was insecure. Whenever the issue of their insecurity came up, I would be blindsided by it because I was thinking that everything was fine. It has degraded a couple of my relationships because I really have no patience for those kind of things and see it as a waste of time to have to deal with my partner dwelling on their insecurities rather than, uhm, doing anything else.

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  • kelili
    9 years ago

    I think it's fairly normal.

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