Is it normal to talk on the phone for over hour and a half every night?

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Two days before Christmas I started seeing an awesome guy. We totally clicked, but he let me know no expectations, he doesn't want a relationship.

The Thing is every day for a month plus now we talk every day on the phone. No text.He calls me and it's seldom I call him first. We talk about everything.... And when we are together He always takes me out to eat

He says he doesn't want a relationship , but this feels like how you build a foundation to a good one....is this normal!?

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Based on 27 votes (15 yes)
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  • Bake34
    8 years ago

    It sounds like you guys really click. Maybe he'll change his mind but don't be disappointed if he doesn't. In the meantime enjoy the time you do have with him.

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    • klebo
      8 years ago

      Would you like to chat with me? Like to get your insight on stuff

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  • Steve2!
    8 years ago

    I spend the same amount of time talking to business interests every night, sometimes even longer.

    That's a long time to waste talking to someone who won't make your bank account swell.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    I recently met a very nice man, but he lives in Houston, Texas so well call and text everyday. He recently flew in to visit me for a couple of days. Communication is a great thing!

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  • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
    8 years ago

    Hmmm déjà vu - been where you are. Investing time talking with him and going to the movies, dinner etc made me wonder after a couple of weeks exactly what kind of relationship we had. So I started making plans every night hitting the gym, catching up with the girls, eating out etc - didn't have time take his calls 'oh no I'd love to talk but I'm just on my way out' so a quick hi & bye was all we had when I did pick up the phone. The following week he just 'had to see me urgently and discuss something important'. Lo and behold he did want a relationship, he had done 'a lot of thinking' and missed our conversations and time together lol. It suddenly dawned on him that I may meet someone else romantically and he didn't want that. Question: If he's getting what he wants from you now why would things change? If you don't want a relationship with him keep being available as his friend.

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    • kittycatrelle
      8 years ago

      OK so its worked. I didn't talk to him for two days just real quick. Now today he wants me to come over. I told him I would let him know by four, but I don't know if I should go or not....

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      • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
        8 years ago

        No girl you don't go. He gets pizza delivered to his house not you. You are special. He needs to learn if he wants you well then - he'd better start putting some effort in and chasing you. 2 days of fast calls is not enough to get the point across. This guy is going to need at least 10days until he gets the picture. He wants you well then he'd better start chasing you hard! Men love the chase. I do hope he has asked you out for your birthday! My bf went through this process - day 13 showed up at 9:30pm unannounced because 'he just had to talk to me' and I wouldn't answer my phone (so he really just wanted to see who was at my house lol) I met him at the door in my gross veg out gear and told him I was just going to bed, I wasn't feeling well and didn't appreciate his attitude then said goodnight and slammed the door. 2 years later he told me that was the moment he knew he loved me. The moment he realised I would not put up with his shit and that he wanted a strong woman who knew she was worth respect in his life. Lol. The following day he sent me a text asking if I would like him to stop by after work and make me some soup. LOL it was the worst soup I've ever eaten. But also the best :))) stay strong. If your guy wants something that runs when he calls he needs to buy a dog.

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        • kittycatrelle
          8 years ago

          Ok i did a reset since we hung on my birthday. Today is day six, he still call twice a day, and I'm either about to shower, go out, etc. I miss Him but this my first real lesson in self respect. Thank u for your empowering me

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        • deepdankstickygoo
          8 years ago

          A man that can't cook? More guys need to learn how to cook.

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          • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
            8 years ago

            ...and dance and give proper massages the list goes on.

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            • deepdankstickygoo
              8 years ago

              That must mean I am the best person in the entire world.

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    • kittycatrelle
      8 years ago

      I'm going to take your advice tonight. If he calls I won't answer, and Friday I'll be busy, but sat is my bday...lol... I'll tell him I'll squeeze him in.

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      • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
        8 years ago

        Most Welcome and I wish you all the best of luck! Do be sincere it's not game playing if you are truly busy ;) You are ALWAYS right in the middle of something - answer the phone out of breath but super happy 'Hey you! I was hoping to hear from you!...Yeah bit out of breath just came back from a run... I'll have to let you go I need get ready for dinner with the girls... talk soon have a great night' Men are, at heart, hunters which a lot of women think means (unfortunately) that in order to be caught they have to act like bait. You don't. Try to get hold of a book call The Catch (it's a brilliant insight into how men court women). Have a super birthday and just remember to give yourself the present of independence cos you're worth it! Keep us in the loop! Lol X

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    • kittycatrelle
      8 years ago

      You enlightened me. For that I Thank You Sincerely

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  • qualityaristocrat
    8 years ago

    "The art of war is simple enough. Find out where your enemy is. Get at him as soon as you can. Strike him as hard as you can, and keep moving on."

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    • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
      8 years ago

      'Find out where yalls enemy aint and be there'

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    • kittycatrelle
      8 years ago

      Yes!!!! Motivation for my day- Thanks!

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      • klebo
        8 years ago

        Would you come talk to me?

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  • Goku19
    8 years ago

    He doesn't want a relationship.

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    • kittycatrelle
      8 years ago

      What is a relationship exactly. I'm confused

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      • Bake34
        8 years ago

        What you have already with a verbal agreement to be faithful. Or you know whatever you mutually agree on.

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        • kittycatrelle
          8 years ago

          Thanks,...I appreciate your thoughtfulness.

          I just got off the phone with him. We had a blast.

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