Is it normal to 'suck up' to abuse?

My dad always told me that men do not get abused. Plain and simple. The first (and thankfully the last) time I went to the hospital for broken bones and severe bruising, my dad told me that I was weak for not defending myself. That I wouldnt be in the hospital if I had my ex what he wanted and not whined like a little baby. IIN?

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Comments ( 28 )
  • wistfulmaiden

    I don't understand what you're saying.

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    • Good answer

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      • ReginaFalange

        No, really, I can't understand it either.

        Are you male or female?
        Does your boyfriend hit you? You did that to you?
        How old are you.

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  • wistfulmaiden

    Who beat you up: your dad, your ex or someone else? Are you make or female? That much is not even clear.

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    • Sorry. Thats not helpful

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    • I am alien

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  • Ellenna

    I don't understand the question either: for a start, isn't there something missing between "if I had" and "my ex"? Probably the word "given" but what was it he wanted your dad thought you should give?

    If you want clear answers, write clear questions!

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    • Maybe I want to be confusing

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      • Biggirlbanger

        Then don't expect a normal or real answer

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        • good point... Im already at the point of no return so I went with making it worse.

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          • Ellenna

            Well that's rather silly isn't it? Not to mention wasting the time & energy of people who'd like to be supportive if you'd only let them

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            • Im not very good at this :s

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  • Melora

    Set up boundaries and defend them. Sucking up does not build any healthy boundaries.

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  • ReginaFalange

    Hey, we'd really like to help you, stop messing with us.

    If you are a stupid troll I hope you really get your bones broken so you learn not to joke about abuse.

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  • VSpnklvr

    This is one of the most bizarre posts I've seen in a while. Not sure if the OP is trolling the shit out of everyone, needs serious help or both.

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    • I dont really know

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      • VSpnklvr

        Well that really helps to shed more light on the situation.

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        • Does it though?

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          • VSpnklvr

            I don't know....does it?

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  • thegypsysailor

    WTF?

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    • itsnotnormal2

      You pretend to sail the world from your mother's basement.

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      • thegypsysailor

        Why does my life bug you so much? Jealous of a winner, loser?

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        • ReginaFalange

          I, for one, am certainly jealous of your nickname, it's cool :)

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          • thegypsysailor

            I'll make up another and you can have it, if you like. But I warn you, it comes with the responsibility of being a wanderer and a vagabond, forever on the move.

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            • ReginaFalange

              :)

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    • Yes?

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