Is it normal to strongly want kids since 16
I'm obviously not going to act on this yet but I keep thinking about having kids.
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(57 yes)
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gashlover
well you should be aware of everything that's hard about being a parent before you jump into anything. Kids are expensive, way hard on your body, a huge responsibility. They wake up up at 3 am on a daily basis more than half the time. They whine and cry at silly things. I sure as hell don't want kids.. lol
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mountain-man82
Its normal. Ive known a few woman that have wanted to have kids since a younger age, and they too didnt act on it.
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sunshineanddandelions
You might think you want a kid right now because of your hormones, your need to feel love and to be loved, you want to be considered an adult/mature, or it could be babies can look cute from afar...but guess what? Don't do it! You are TOO young. You're just a kid yourself, like it or not. Babies are A LOT of work. Some babies are more difficult than others. You never know what kind you will get. For instance, I was a super easy baby per my Mom. I never fussed, rarely cried, and slept through the night from day one. Yet...my baby screamed constantly and never slept, had colic for MONTHS! Today she is over 4 years old and is still really hard, stubborn, doesn't listen to me. So you should enjoy your youth, your looks, and most of all your FREEDOM! Your young years pass so quickly, you will wake up and realize you're 40 (like me) seems yesterday I was your age. Now it's gone. Babies are expensive, have endless needs, many cry a lot, keep you awake all night and day, and are a 24/7 job. Once you have one, life as you know it is over, your life is over, and it's all about the baby, and what are you going to do with the baby, who will watch the baby while you try to earn a living, forget about going out with your friends. Wait till you're in your later 20s, stable relationship, preferably married and have a career and some money tucked away. Travel, meet new people, get an education, have lots of fun first. That's my advice anyway. One last thing, if you think having a baby will provide you with someone who will love you, think again....the dad usually splits after a couple of months if not sooner, and the kid will not necessarily love you all the time. Kids can be ungrateful brats that challenge you daily.
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sunshineanddandelions
Love yourself first. I've been told that if you don't or can't love yourself, then how can you expect others to? A baby will not fill a void you may have in your life, your self-image, or whatever it may be. A baby will only complicate your life, and prevent you from figuring out/getting to the bottom of who you really are, who you want to become and how to fix that void. You will be so caught up in trying to provide for the baby's endless needs, wants, care, expenses, etc., that you will be postponed from doing you for a longggg time. I suggest staying in school, learn a skill that interests you, move to a new town, meet new people, spend some time alone also, think about yourself deeply, meditate. I know that may sound lame to a young person like yourself, but meditation in a quiet place will provide you the reflection time you need to figure out that void and heal from things that may be messing with your mind/spirit. Also, FYI it's hard to be a nurturing parent, if you aren't able to nurture yourself first.
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