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so i was wondering if it is normal to stop liking a guy if another girl begins to like him as in flirting with him. its not that i feel jealous, but rather not like him at all, and never look at him in the same way. and even if he dosent like her back, that wouldnt change anything, i will still not like the guy.
Nah, this is way abnormal. Most people are fuelled by the sense of competition not repelled by it. I'm sure you realize that it's usually just the opposite.
There was this girl that I had a crush on, and we'd flirt, but nothing serious, because we didn't have any friends in common. We sort of fell out of touch, and she reached out to me in a casual way, hinting that she still had feelings for me.
I told her I was dating someone, and she instantly changed her behaviour. She went from casually suggesting we could we good together to propositioning me outright and grilling me about the girl I was dating. When she figured my relationship was serious she relented at that point, but kept calling me and sexting me all the time.
Then she ups her game and begins dating my friend trying to make me jealous. Long story short, she tells me that if I break up with my girlfriend, she'll breakup with my friend and we'd be free to date each other. I had recently discovered my current GF to be a bitch anyway, so we break up, and this girl breaks up with my friend like she said. We date for a few months but then have this big argument where she admits that she only really wanted me because she couldn't have me and it drove her insane that she didn't get to me before the bitchy girl! As you can imagine, I end it with her.
In your case, I imagine you may not want a guy other girls want because you want someone unique or somebody who it seems was meant specifically for you. Maybe you feel that if you like a guy another girl might like for sexual reasons that your reasons for liking him must be more shallow than you realized, and it turns you away from him.
It's interesting... I do know a guy who tends to go for girls that other guys don't notice, but I figured it was because he wasn't confident in the sack and wanted somebody inexperienced XD
I would take that to be a defense mechanism. If you are not confidant that you are better than the other girl and couldn't hold on to the guy anyway, then it's better to turn away from any confrontation which you will surely lose.
You need to realize that since the guy already likes you, you are obviously an OK girl, and that should be enough to make it worth while to try to hold on to him.
It could be insecurity: You don't like to have a challenger, maybe? I would think it would be normal for people who aren't as secure in themselves.
I haven't ever felt that way unless if I found out that a friend had a crush on him.
It's..odd...but whoever had the longest crush has "rights" to go get the guy. And if she doesn't get him and he tries to go after YOU, you need to make sure that it's okay with HER to get with the guy (more than likely not). This is what I follow anyway.