Is it normal to stop him before he has finished?

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I love sex with my husband and love orgasms, in the past when he cum in me that would be it. Sometimes I would cum first or we cum together thats fine, but often he was done and I didn't finish. A while ago he hurt his back so lately I been getting on top mostly. I decided to play at his own game, I rode him had a lovely orgasm, and got off before he had cum. He didn't like it but he done it to me so many times it felt good. I told him it was great, kissed him and went for a shower. He was not happy but I realised it's great not having all the mess he makes. I decided for me it's a great way to have sex. I started doing this now and then, I told him it's more exciting as he never knows if he will cum. From on top I learnt to control things so I cum first if I want, and even if he does I just keep going till I'm ready to stop. I decided to do it more often so now he only cums about once every 9 or 10 days, we usually make love 2 or 3 times a week. I been teasing him and make him give me lots of orgasms and foot rubs etc to earn the right to cum. He says he just wants to have sex like we used to but I'm getting so much more out of this than I ever did for years I don't want to go back how things were, don't know I could really do that now. I'm thinking of seeing how long I can get him to go without letting him cum in me. Am I being really mean or am I right to turn the tables like this after so many years of our sex life being based mainly on his needs?

Should I always let him cum 8
Should he only cum if he earned it 6
Should I only let him cum about once a week 1
Should I only let him cum occasionally 0
Should I push it so he gets to cum less and less 2
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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    So he was a selfish, inconsiderate jerk, and now you're being a selfish, inconsiderate jerk. Well done.

    I'm sure every couples-guidance counsellor would tell you that's a great recipe for a wonderfully positive relationship.

    ...Or maybe not...

    A logical escalation: he lets you play your silly little game, then finishes himself by masturbating and ejaculating on your pillow.

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  • Emokate
    6 years ago

    You sound mean. I don't know but I think it is probably unhealthy for him to be treated like that.

    He may seek other women too so it's better to make him happy.

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    6 years ago

    So you're getting revenge? On your own husband? Instead of explaining to him at the time that it wasn't fair and telling him it needs to change? That's stupid.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      It's not really revenge, it more like, I found out what it's like for my pleasure to be the most important. Imagine if you have an old car you are very happy with your car but one day it gets written off in a crash. You decide to go all out and buy a much newer car after a while would you want to go back to the old one

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      • JellyBeanBandit
        6 years ago

        Nobody's pleasure is more important, a marriage is supposed to be equal. There's not a person's feelings and emotions on the line with buying a fucking car.

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  • curious-bunny
    6 years ago

    Fuck tfbe bastard don't let him cum, by how over sexualized guys are your marriage may be on a slippery slope

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    6 years ago

    Ok so I get it what people are saying yeah I'm probably being really bad to do this. So last night I think yeah talk to him put it right. So I tell him we got to talk about sex and I tell him what I think and for me it's much better like this because I get to cum more. He said he gets it and he wants things to change to make it good for both of us. It's not that it's not good if I don't cum sometimes that's ok, but when I think about it, I think it was happening more and more. So we go to bed a couple of hours later and we are going to make love, his back is getting much better and he wants to get on top. We had a lovely time with foreplay, kissing, touching etc he tells me don't cum till I'm inside you, so I don't, then he gets on top of me 3 minutes later with him grunting and groaning and he's all done and rolling off me. I'm lying there thinking what was all that about, I'm on the edge and he's getting off, nothings changed. I talked to him about it like is this you getting your own back for the last few weeks, and he's like no but I don't like to carry on when I'm done. Then he's making out it's my fault cos he says I don't understand men. So tell me, what's a girl supposed to do?

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    • nikkiclaire
      6 years ago

      😂. Get a girlfriend.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    lol. Your marriage is falling apart.

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  • McBean
    6 years ago

    Very soon, he will move into a separate bedroom and stop having sex with you. You will have to divorce him and move on. It seems unwise to me.

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