Is it normal to stay in this relationship

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Me and my GF are cool with each other BUT because of family living arangements work money ect. our relationship sucks, it's bad enough that I want to leave.

I'm not a superficial Dude BUT at the end of the day I got to pay bills, work, generally struggle. My GF say's when her Mom dies she will inhearit a pretty tasty estate, I'm talking almost 2 mill. She say's I can have my own little Crib on the property and do my own thang.

So what do I do? Keep enduring this painful relationship and hope it pay's off, or ditch her and make my own life.

This is a big serious decision and I'm a long time IINer would love some serious feedback from my Bro's.

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Based on 14 votes (3 yes)
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  • Darkoil
    8 years ago

    Both you and your girlfriend are in cuckoo land, what a pair of fucking cretins.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    Money isnt worth wasting life experience over.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      This is a good point.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    You sound greedy, and she sounds desperate like she's trying to buy you. Ugh.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I'm not greedy I just want to get off struggle street.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        Understandable, but still still sounds sketchy to rely on someone else's inheritance to me.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    When is the last time you heard of a promise like this paying off? And if mommy dearest lives to be 99? What good will your share of $2m do you if the stress of this relationship gives you a stroke or a fatal cardiac event?
    Bounce.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      You hit the nail right on the head. I could waste the next 30 years of my life but If Mom drives off a cliff next week CHA CHING!

      It sounds heartless but I'm just being honest, the inheritance would give us freedom to live our own lives.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        If you think money gives you freedom, then you are sadly mistaken. Money has it's own responsibilities, believe me; you now have something to lose. And as for the inheritance, if you haven't seen the will, you have no idea how it will be disbursed. It could go into a trust, with a trustee who distributes the money as he or she sees fit, or a trust with lots of restrictions.
        Piss momma off and the will gets changed and voila; girl friend gets nothing if she's with you.
        Too many pitfalls to count, IMO.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    You're not married so anything she gives you she can take away when things really fall apart. It sounds like you're not in this for any other reason but the money anymore. I would just move on if you know what's good for you.

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  • Pinger
    8 years ago

    You only have one life, but on that note...how old is the mom?

    If she has just a few years left, wait. Otherwise peace out and live life. You'll be happier poor than rich and miserable.

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  • TareBear20
    8 years ago

    No amount of money is worth being miserable in a relationship. It would be stupid of you to stay with her.

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  • Springfurmich
    8 years ago

    money is pretty important but remember YOU are the most important person in your life. don't put yourself in a relationship that makes you miserable. unless you think you can really do well with the money. just make sure you don't start having mental issues. have fun, good sir ^_^

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    I don't understand what is so painful about this relationship if you are "cool with each other"? If you are separated , what is the difference? typically financial situations are easier with a second income contributing . I know you say you are not superficial but this entire post has been about money . I think the biggest cause for concern is the fact you are up and ready to leave your lover because of something like money , this is more of a concern to me and the rest is pretty irrelevant sorry to put it bluntly . I must add one more thing , this "2 Million" .... surely you don't believe this or think this makes sense as a reason to stay , do you?

    Best of luck , hopefully you make the right choice .

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  • Elixis
    8 years ago

    Money shouldn't play a factor in whether not your relationship will be successful. If your relationship is horrible now, I'm not sure it will be better once she gets her inheritance.
    Just think about the positives versus the negatives of this relationship, and make your decision.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      We will have our own space, at the moment her family are driving a wedge between us.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    You don't have to spend money on each other to have a successful relationship :/

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