Is it normal to stay in a relationship, while having every reason to leave?

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Is it normal? to have some phase where you keep swallowing everything you wanna say, and everything you wanna say IS horrible and will lead to a break up?
I've sworn not to break up with this guy due to me cheating on him a couple of years ago, he forgave but i always felt horrible about that because he moved country for me.
However, he developed a serious anger issue, lazyness issue, prickness issue, where he wont do anything for himself, not get lunch, not even clothes for himself. he acts like a baby practicly crying, yelling around the (my)house breaking my shit, saying i need to help him (by getting him clothes and waking him up nicely when he needs to wake up way earlier than me and i drive him to work as a favor.
he makes these ridiculous demands as if i was his maid mother or something, i cant tell him to fuck off because he has nowhere to go, just his mom's and she has MS cant deal with his bratty ass thats why he was in another country in the first place..

is this normal....??

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Based on 30 votes (13 yes)
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  • scottish_quine
    11 years ago

    Oh hun,

    Don't be putting up with that shit. You are better than that. He may have moved from another country to be with you but that is absolutely NO excuse to be treating you the way that he does.

    You are his partner, not his mother, he is an adult and should be able to to day to day tasks all by himself.

    Go out with your friends, have a good time, leave him to his own devices (before doing that hide all things that are precious to you so he can't deface them), that'll give him time to stew. And let him get the BUS to work. He needs to be taught a lesson that one!

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    • pappusharma
      11 years ago

      I agree with you, but before taking any step, i think its better if you and your BF sit together and talk on this topic. Ask him why is he behaving this way? is their any problem? anything that you did wrong which is hurting him day by day because of which he is acting in such way. Or maybe their is some other reason which is bothering him. Mostly this behavior is when a person is not able to handle some pressure. Pressure can be of any type - work related, family related, GF/BF related, and loads of them.
      I suggest you should talk with him nicely. Ask him what is the matter, what is bothering him so much? tell him how this is hurting you. If he is a real worth person to be in relationship, he will speak or if he fights or do any other mad stuff, just leave him telling why you are doing all this.
      I believe talking will help you sort out many things. All the best.

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    It's normal, but it's not healthy. You aren't obligated to stay in that relationship because you cheated on him years ago. You need to take care of yourself, and right now, taking care of yourself means getting out of that situation. You CAN tell him to fuck off. He's an adult. He can find somewhere to stay. That's not your problem.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    If you feel like you should break up with him, then the best thing to do is to break up with him. I always say, if it's not working then it's not going to work. There's no use in trying to make it. You will only make matters worse. Leave him while the time is still early, otherwise moving on will be harder to do.

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  • Ryan555
    11 years ago

    Just the next time he does it tell him get/do it yourself you Baraty ass hole

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