Is it normal to stay calm just because you love her ?

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Hi Buddies

I am back ! After a long long time,was missing your fair openions and warmth. Being a part of is it normal is A Great relief.
So here is my story :

last time i mentioned about a girl who was my best friend kinda more than best friend...she avoided me,treats me like a shit because of a rich man etc etc.So i finally broke up with her since last year feb month.

I met another girl few months ago and fell in love with her now she and me are gfs :)She is an choregrapher,dedicated to her dance,obsessed with it.Our is an long distance relationship,we both were happy.But i had feelings for my past friend not much but yes like just friends.

Now....one day out of the blue that past friend of mine turned up.She got married and dosent even told me.Anyways i was happy that she was happy with the same guy who was her bf and now her husband.I told her how much happy i am with my GF.She said she is happy that finally i got my partner.

Then my gf came to my city for her dance classes and YES for me too ;)..She lived for one moth everything was good in the beginning,then i felt she love her dancing more than me,if i go someday out of her life she will be okay just because she has her passion,I felt bad. We fought,we abuse but we continue to love each other...On the other hand i ve done a mistake,,I told all this to my past friend and she said you are girls you cant stay together forever,You are just having fun,,your gf is doing time pass,you are doing sex and having temporary fun,,thats all.
I felt sad coz i really love my gf.

Then the month completed I realised my gf loves me but she loves her passion more than me and she wants confirtable life,but at thix point of time i havent much money to feed luxuries.She went back to her city she calls me msg me on daily basis but for a short time ..like 5-10 minutes a day.
I am feeling lonely.. My past friend is still my friend but taking me for granted,,abuse me like i am idiot and a nobody to her,taking me for granted on the other hand my gf commits that she loves me but hardly give me times,,,some time i fought with both,coz i love my friend as well as my gf. sometimes i remain silent and drank my tears..IIN?
Tell me what should i do..Plz tell me solution ans dont say fuck both of the,please tell the realistic solution so that i can track down my egomaniac friend and will get attention of my busy gf.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    I think you got the best advice you're gonna get. It sounds like you are vying for the attention of both these people and that's just not worth it. NOBODY is worth making a fool of yourself. There's people out there that will love you for who you are and want to be around you, you just haven't met them yet.

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    • rachel.dsouza
      8 years ago

      Thanks Buddy.

      But you tell what should i do.My gf and i cant marry coz in my country its not allowed.I love her she loves me too.Onthe other hand my bestie is being jelous and selfish,,she is playng blame game and making me feel guilty as i am a jerk who is doing paid sex with a girl who is passionate about her dance and comfirts and not me.

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  • Rainbowbash
    8 years ago

    I think you just need to accept the fact that she DOES love her passion more, that will never change, sorry, man.. On the other hand, your friend is just a drama queen, so its best not to pay attention to her. try to make yourself more open in the virtual and real worlds to get some distance in them, and make some new friends for emotional support in the process...

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    • rachel.dsouza
      8 years ago

      ok..Thanks. Tell one more thing how to handle the drama queen friend of mine.My GF & Friend both are close to me..
      How can i move on..what should i do to make my long distance relationship work???

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