Is it normal to stalk people out of nervousness?

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Background: im a 25 year old woman never had a relationship before and i get shy around anyone i have a crush on or would like to talk to.

Story: so i was in the plaza and just chilling when i saw a cute guy who was totally my type but because of my nerves i couldnt just "walk up and say hi" because im too shy and felt like i would end up freaking out in the plaza.... i watched him go into a store and i paced up and down nervously because i tried to round up my courage to say something but each time i chickened out and ended up following him until he left the plaza.... ugh.... i even stalked him the following week because he came in again. My point is i feel like im never gonna get anywhere because im to nervous and shy to even approach guys...

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Based on 28 votes (19 yes)
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Comments ( 13 )
  • richardgerecameinmyass
    7 years ago

    Where have you been all my life?

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    • RamenNoodleMaster#2
      7 years ago

      I know i wish women were this nice in my town.

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    • killerchan
      7 years ago

      ^^;; what??

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      • richardgerecameinmyass
        7 years ago

        Come my lady come come my lady...youre my butterfly..sugar baby....

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        • killerchan
          7 years ago

          LOL u gotta get to know me before i just date you (unless your handsome ;D )

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  • ifuckhandsignalsdaily
    7 years ago

    this isn't a relationship forum for fucktards, fuck off.

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    The cold approach is far from easy, and requires a great deal of confidence and the ability to take risk. Things you don't have right now. Really you'll have much better luck with online dating. Focus on being feminine and everything will work out just fine.

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    • killerchan
      7 years ago

      online dating i found sucks, any suggestions on proper sites that wont have creepy desperate loosers just wanting sex? D: (trust me theres alot of them, some seem innocent enough but when i start to warm up to them they pull there d**ks out.... )

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      • riffraffy
        7 years ago

        Okcupid is fine and POF is decent. Just realize one thing: the only difference between a 'creepy' guy and a 'cute' one is how attractive he is.

        Every guy wants to have sex. If you want a proper relationship, make it clear to him but also be relationship material in the first place.

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        • killerchan
          7 years ago

          i guess i havent really found who i am yet as a person since ive never dated before, im not into the whole sex thing and someone told me i might be asexual, i classify more with demisexual since it takes along time for me to fully trust someone...

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          • riffraffy
            7 years ago

            Tossing those labels around means you must be very young. Just keep in mind that attraction is non-negotiable, and that it is either there it or isn't. It's the opposite of rational.

            Just focus on being attractive yourself and more attractive mates will become available.

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            • killerchan
              7 years ago

              im not that young but i know younger friends and coworkers who use those labels, im not pretty i admit but the people who i attract arent my type

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