Is it normal to stalk my wife?

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My wife was behaving rather strangely for some time, doing things like starting fights and leaving the house right after and putting in a lot of 'overtime' at work (though our finances remain the same). I went to a colleague's house in another neighborhood after work one day because I didn't want to go home and deal with my wife and found out she was having an affair with some bouncy-footed, nasally, beak-faced, cultured little shit from Brazil. Since then, I've wanted to see the two having sex. It hurts, I could fucking shoot myself and cried like a bitch when I found out, but I was aroused and every time I see my wife now, I don't know whether to be horny or morose. I want to see every saucy post and message she's ever shared with this man, I want to know if he's a better lover than me, I want to know what he has that I don't, etc. I know it's crazy, but it kills me, I swear to god. It turns me on, I hate it, but it really turns me on.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I don't understand this. I would just say get a divorce. It seems your wife does not respect you but you do not seem to respect yourself either. You should work on that if you want better relationships in the future. You can start by telling your wife to fuck off and forget about her.

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    • WhiteStallion
      9 years ago

      Yeah this is way messed up.

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  • NWFL
    9 years ago

    Every single thing you said is normal.. and that "turned on" feeling you get is a yearning, not sexual desire. Its more about love, rejection, and betrayal. Been there, done that.

    Here's THE advice you need. Start conditioning your mind to not give a fuck about him, her, or anything else related to your relationship. Your mind is malleable, and what you're going through could EASILY end up killing you, so get to work changing how you feel. We men are not as capable of handling emotional trauma as women are, its going to get very bad for you, so start preparing yourself as best you can.

    The moment you feel like you've arrived at that place, go see a divorce attorney BEFORE you tell her. That attorney will advise you on how to maximize your takeaway, which might involve a private investigator depending on how your state views infidelity. (Even if you want to give her half, or even give her everything, you'll want to fight for every single drop in court.. which will allow you to give her everything on YOUR terms and not the court/lawyer/sheriff's blah blah, trust me, even doing the right thing SUCKS under those conditions)

    The longer you can avoid telling her that you know about the affair, the better. In fact, never tell her, let your attorney do 100% of the talking.

    NO MATTER WHAT you MUST leave her. I've done the "love will overcome bs" as well, and it won't. Even if she immediately changes and becomes everything a good wife could be for the rest of your lives.. you'll ALWAYS live in misery because you'll NEVER trust her again. Its horrible... very, very, horrible.

    Get out, but be smart. Best of luck.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I don't understand this, because as far as I'm concerned there's no reason to stalk her except to gather evidence for your divorce proceedings. If I were you I would hire a good lawyer and see to it that she gets as little as possible. If I were in your shoes I wouldn't be turned on, I'd be enraged.

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