Is it normal to slowly decide you don't properly love your other half?

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Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 yrs we don't live together as of yet. It had been planned but never took off. We always used to have a laugh and loving towards each other. But recently we hardly see each other or talk to each other. Due to being so busy with work and other things. I've slowly been going off her if i'm honest. I don't know what to do, and might seem selfish but I hate being single. When I was single last time it was nightmare, I always like to have a partner :/ I haven't been single for about 6 years, because me and my current gf got together quite quickly after my last relationship. Opinions?

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  • VinnyB
    9 years ago

    Yes, stringing your significant other along because you are afraid to be alone is selfish.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I guess keeping a gal around you don't care for any more to screw and think of as your gf, just so you won't feel lonely is great for you, but don't you think it's a little unfair to her?
    If you cared for her at all at one time, you really should let her get on with her life without you, and man up to your being alone.

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  • BlueReverence
    9 years ago

    How does she feel about the situation?

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  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    It's normal and also very common. It sounds as if you've grown apart and it'd be fairer to yourself and to her to end the relationship.

    I've held on to unsatisfactory relationships in the past rather than be alone, but haven't done it for years because it's boring and pointless.

    Ending it is better for you both and being single for a while isn't the end of the world. I've found that when I have good loving friendships, which I do have, I don't mind being single so much. I'm fortunate that I have lots of solid couples as friends, and although I do envy their relationships it gives me hope I'll find someone too, even though that seems to be getting less possible as I get older.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    It is normal to fall in and out of love. When people fall out of love often times they stop looking at each other and accept a routine. Try "heating up" the relationship. Take a shower together, have sex by a fireplace. Or, go to a restaurant, pass on desert, give her oral sex in the car in lieu of dessert before you drive away.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    9 years ago

    Well we've both agreed we've been drifting apart slowly recently, but get this... she gave me chlamydia which I wasn't best pleased about! (Obv) She lived with her flat mate in town (male.) Which as you can guess raises my suspicion. We can't go on together, with suspicious minds! (I had to.) I don't mean to string her along. And I know it's bad to. I'm in that middle section where I know it's better to part. But I can't cause I still do love her, but no where near as much as I used to.

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