Is it normal to skip the grieving process

There is no one right way to grieve the loss of a loved one, and there's no cosmic law that means an individual will grieve exactly the same way every time someone they care about departs from their life.

From what you say, it sounds like you'd been thinking about your grandfather's impending death for some time before it happened. That sort of preparation often does a lot to soften the blow. I suspect you started working your way through the classic stages of denial, bargaining, anger and depression before he died, so his passing wasn't nearly as much of a shock to you as it could have been. Maybe you have some way to go before you reach the acceptance stage, but it sounds like you're on your way already.

Also, the fact that your grandmother died - apparently not that long ago - means that the grieving process is no longer a completely novel thing for you. You've been through the mill and come out the other end, so you're not constantly wondering what the hell is going on in your head, if the turmoil will ever stop and how you'll ever manage to carry on following the disappearance of someone who's been a constant fixture in your life for as long as you can remember.

People can learn to come to terms with death and the grieving process. It's never enjoyable to lose someone you really care about, but it is possible to learn how to cope with that and move forward.

It's interesting how you mention your Catholicism. My perception is that the Church does push the message that you need to suffer if you're to be a good Catholic and in fact you deserve to suffer. If you've internalised that BS, then it's not surprising for you to feel some degree of guilt about not being totally devastated by the death of your grandfather.

You shouldn't feel that way. You're dealing with your grandfather's death in the way you're dealing with it. You have the right to do that, and you shouldn't listen to anyone who tries to tell you that you're not feeling the right things or not suffering enough.

Catholics shouldn't necessarily grieve, anyway. Funerals should be joyous events, celebrating a person's return to the Lord.

Grief can always be postponed, but not cancelled. I have heard it said you can only grieve one loss at a time, but it doesn't mean grief will come in chronological order, you might be grieving everything else going on right now with COVID and will get around to your other losses later.

I think you're emotionally burnt out. You've got a lot going on for you and the death of a close loved one can definitely be a lot to take in. You need to deal with everything else first and then give yourself a healthy period of time to grieve, you just have heaps going on.

My dog recently died and I'm just ignoring the fact. Its not healthy to push away the grief, but I know I can't handle it right now so I'll deal with thinking about her when I'm more mentally stable.

Yeah in some cases it definietely is. It's happened to me. I didn't go through a grieving process when my grandfather died, but we weren't so close though and he'd been sick a very long time. I was sad and I miss him sometimes but I didn't cry or anything and during the funeral I mostly felt happy for him to not be so sick anymore and to have reunited with my grandmother, maybe focusing on that was a way to deal with it. I don't know, but I think him having been so ill for so long made it feel less tragic. He'd lived a long and overall good life.

When your grandmother died did she suffer? I grief more when the ending was rough for my loved one. If they lived a long and happy life it doesnt bother me as bad.

I don’t process stuff I just repress it, in no way does it manifest in negative behaviour

Healthy emotional adaptation to loss, love, and life have been frozen in your mind by religious rationalizations and suppression of constructive thought. Sorry, but Catholicism is not working for you. I know the damage it can do to children and adolescents because it was the most negative influence of my childhood.

Please do not despair. You can find your own way thru this, as well as your place in life, and the entire cosmos as well. I know it can be hard to know your own thoughts and feelings. Religious mental control over people has been fine tuned over the centuries. But it is possible to turn off these toxic voices in your head. Give yourself quiet condolences, and comfort. When ideas pop into your head, ask yourself what your subconscious is trying to tell you.

You'll get there. Please believe that.

It seems like you have a lot of thoughts on your mind that you can't decide how to tackle, maybe because there are so many that are similarly important.

I would suggest meditating, sit however you like so you can be still for a long time, feel the tensions in your body and loosen them (some people start with the feet and work up). Try not to think at all once you're relaxed, the first few streams of thought will more than likely be a defense mechanism orchestrated by your subconscious to not move past this point in your life, as it's less harmful to not process something than it is to go through with it.

Once you've been internally quiet long enough, the real thoughts will come. The how's and why's. I find it best to avoid strings of thought, like actually thinking sentences, as the ambiguity of words can be used by your subconscious to further distract you. What works best for me is to understand what and how I'm feeling, as that's more pure and essential to who I am.

You probably won't get all the answers in the first day, so it may become important to practice this often. I'm not religious, but I do see this as a form of prayer, or maybe how prayer was done a few thousand years ago. For me it's about connecting with my inner god, my soul, the divinity within me as opposed to the Christian faith that would reach out to an external being internally.

Not sure what you know or think about the law of attraction, but it's psychologically proven to exist, work, and benefit those who practice it. Maybe some research into it or talking to your therapist about it might help you out.

I have some YouTubers who aren't preachy if you wanna look into them

You guys paid for a funeral? Biggest scam since religion