Is it normal to send a happy birthday message to your son's ex-girlfriend

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My 19 yearold son had a girlfriend last year. I really liked her. Then they split up. Some months later it was her birthday and I sent her a message "Happy Birthday" nothing else. She replied "thanks". Now they are thinking of getting back together and she told him that I am very weird because I sent her a message. He told me that the fact that I have no idea about boundries makes him very sad and apparently I have to wait to be invited rather then inviting myself. I really don't want to do anything with his relationships and I didn't mean to be intrusive or inviting myself anywhere, but I had no ill feelings towards the girl that's why I did it. Is it such a bad thing to do?

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  • Couman
    8 years ago | pl

    Girlfriend, yes, ex-girlfriend less so.

    I wouldn't call it a "bad thing to do", but a little strange.

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    8 years ago

    I would be mildly annoyed if I were in your son's position

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    • elenamish
      8 years ago

      He was, that's why I feel sad.

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  • GeekyGold
    8 years ago

    There is nothing wrong with saying happy birthday to someone. That girl shouldn't say that you are weird for being nice, she should appreciate that you like her and you care. You could've been one of those mean mothers who don't like any of their son's girlfriends, but your not. Your son and that girl are over reacting and it is stupid.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    8 years ago

    They both overreacted. I hate when people think you strange for being thoughtful.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    I don't think it is all that strange especially if you had built some type of relationship with her. If you haven't though and the 'Happy Birthday' was out of nowhere I could see where they would be peeved by it.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    I don't see what's wrong about it.

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  • Tc3001
    7 years ago

    Stay away do not

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  • elenamish
    8 years ago

    thank you everyone for resonding to my post. I suppose as parents we always learn something. It's good to know the opinion of people who are not involved in the situation.

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  • heckleBucker
    8 years ago

    I think you were out of line. You meant well, but they need far more space than you are even aware of.

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