Is it normal to resign myself to being alone because i'm ugly

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So, I'm ugly. That is undeniable: I am female, with a very large nose and chin. I've accepted it, and I also revolve any life plans around not being in a relationship because wherever I am there is a 98% chance I am the ugliest person in the room. I'm just wondering, is this normal? We do judge by looks, let's be honest. I've been bullied about it for many years, and I'm told men are 'visual creatures'. My personality's alright, but I'm shy on top of that so ... I'm not really down about it, for instance I'm fine with pictures of myself; however everybody seems to care about looks so much. And if I'm honest, I don't get attracted to people who aren't good-looking, either. I can't help it - none of us can, I suppose. I don't have the money for plastic surgery so I'm condemned. And if you think I'm just another insecure teenager, I wouldn't blame you, but if you look up "big noses" on Google Images I have it worse than them all (not meaning to boast). :P Has there ever been an instance where you have been attracted to someone despite the fact they are not conventionally pretty? In other words, can "beauty is on the inside" really happen? I'm inclined to believe that's a lovely thought, but nothing more than a lie to cheer you up.

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  • Alyss
    8 years ago

    As someone who has only ever managed to get a guy based purely on th way I look, I almost wish I was ugly just so I would know for sure that the person with me is with me for ME and not to make themselves look good. It may take longer for you to find someone who wants you, but when you find them, they will want ALL of you, and forever.

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  • VirgilManly
    8 years ago

    You do realize no matter who you are, someone out there in the world wishes they could look as good as you. Just thank God you aren't someone who was disfigured by a fire or an accident. They would probably love to trade places with you.

    Imagine what you'd look like with your lips, nose, eyelids, and ears burned off. Now look in the mirror. I bet the face you see starring back at you doesn't seem so bad now does it?

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  • Fall_leaves
    8 years ago

    http://fuckyeahbignoses.tumblr.com/

    I've been attracted to guys that my friends didn't find attractive. It didn't make much of a difference to me, people like what they like. Just be more positive, you'll find someone that will see you for how beautiful you really are.

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    • VirgilManly
      8 years ago

      It's always amazing how a person can view one of their features a liability while others see it as an attractive asset. Some of those girls on your link are pretty cute.

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      • Fall_leaves
        8 years ago

        I know, right? They're all beautiful in my book, it takes courage to let others see our deepest insecurities and to embrace them. I used to hate my nose but now I've come to adore it. I wouldn't want to look any other way :)

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    I met my first ex husband while I we were working in the same building, and a girlfriend of mine referred to him as ugly, because he had a lot of acne scarring and redness on his face. I never saw him as ugly. He was average to tall in stature with a lean well proportioned body and fairly broad shoulders. He had a snub nose, full lips and big, bright blue eyes; as far as I was concerned he was not ugly, but rather adorable instead. In this instance beauty was quite literally skin deep, at least according to my friend.

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    • R19
      8 years ago

      acne is temporary so are other skin blemishes, bone structure and body shape are genetic, unlike skin issues which are caused due to solar radiation and diet, body structure is genetic and will be passed down to your kids along with chronic diseases and an increased risk of cancer due to cigarette smokers.

      stress and other emotions also affect the representation of genes and the emergence of phenotypes in offspring.

      your husband's acne will not necessarily be passed down to your kids, but the OP's ugly mug will. unless bone growth was controlled by genes which may be suppressed by a different environment.

      genes also mutate due to EM radiation, like mobile phones, or due to contact with radioactive material like Plutonium or Uranium. heat to affects gamete formation.

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  • flyingnostalgia
    8 years ago

    its normal.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    It's normal, but not healthy. It is human nature to seek culpability in a time of tragedy. To blame, and lock ourselves away as to not hinder those with a greater purpose than ourselves. We forget there's more to us than our appearance, our motor skills, or even the very intellect required to understand what this means. We're all human. There are countless others that are thinking just what you are; "I don't matter. I'm not worthy of the affections of others." But you are. You matter. Maybe not to the people around you, but to someone out there you matter more than anything else. But you'll never find them if you don't start looking.

    ^Sorry for the novel^

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  • kelili
    8 years ago

    I always thought my nose was way too big for my face and it is big. If I could afford a rhinoplasty I would go for it. I understand this feeling of being ugly. However I have never been shy and this has allowed me to integrate rather easily and to be frank I have never thought of myself as being ugly. I'm not a beauty but I think that I'm average.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      You don't have a big nose.

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      • kelili
        8 years ago

        Depends on what angle one is watching.

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        • peterr2
          8 years ago

          I would suck you off in a heartbeat!

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  • Murun
    8 years ago

    'Ugly' is completely subjective. Be yourself and some people will be attracted to you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    Cheer up! Sometimes ugly people have great lives and plenty of intimacy. Not me though, but it can happen.

    Do you have an attractive personality? Me neither. But uh...what were we talking about?

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    None of us sees him/herself as others see us, period. None of us sees our self as we really are, either.
    Give yourself a break. You are still a child. You have so many years to find someone; what's your damn hurry? You aren't even the person you will grow up to be.
    So give yourself a tiny break and realize you don't know shit about your future and have a lot of growing up to do yet. Why are you so ready to give up already?

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    8 years ago

    It's definitely not a lie. The dude I've been sexually involved with for the past year is not a conventionally good looking man at all, but I have grown to view him as very sexy and adorable. He has a wonderful sense of humor and is very witty, which is one of the reasons I am so fond of him. So you definitely should not give up hope.

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    • VirgilManly
      8 years ago

      Again you're with someone else, you tramp!
      How can I ever trust you again?

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      • NeofelisNebulosa
        8 years ago

        Lol what do you mean, baby? :P Haha this is the same guy I'm talking about. My current "friend with benefits." He's the only one, I promise! If you weren't on the other side of the computer screen I'd be all over you!

        (I am giggling so hard right now btw)

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        • VirgilManly
          8 years ago

          You mean I can get sloppy seconds?
          You naughty minx.

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          • NeofelisNebulosa
            8 years ago

            You can go first, last, or both ;D
            Lol you're the one who's probably got a girlfriend! I'm actually single :P

            (and you never come to the chat so I'm stuck flirting with you in the comments on other people's stories!)

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  • mlbryan44
    8 years ago

    Do you suck cock?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Are you a teenage boy?

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      • mlbryan44
        8 years ago

        No, I am in my 60s

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  • dom180
    8 years ago

    You seem to have some pretty terrible, self-destructive beliefs about your own body. That's the real problem. Hating yourself is a way bigger problem (and way more unattractive) than a fucking big nose and a weird chin.

    Yes, of course it's possible to be attracted to someone who isn't traditionally unattractive. Of course beauty is in the the of the beholder; where the hell else could it come from?? Beauty is an OPINION, not a fact.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I don't hate myself.

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      • [Old Memory]
        8 years ago

        You sound far too young to have this viewpoint in life already. I'm 35 and live alone, it's lonely but it isn't terrible. Most people would NOT be able to do it.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          I'm not most people.

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          • [Old Memory]
            8 years ago

            Than why complain about it. You're choosing it.

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  • chained_rage
    8 years ago

    There there.

    Keep your chin up..

    And your nose out of other peoples' business.

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