Is it normal to refuse to accept a breakup

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so I had a relationship with someone and when I broke up with her she was so mad. after she stopped being mad about it, she refused to accept that it happened. she acted like we were still together most of the time, still saying "I love you" and trying to hold hands with me. is this normal behavior after a break up or is she a lunatic? by the way I did cut off all contact with her.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    7 years ago

    Sounds like it really got to her and she can't deal with it. If you already cut off contact I don't know what else you could do.

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  • Fall_leaves
    7 years ago

    I went through denial too, more in the way I couldn't understand how someone who "cared" about me could really treat me the way they did. Denial over what they did.

    It's a normal part of grieving a breakup/loss and moving on. That doesn't make her crazy, that makes her human.

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    Cutting all contact includes not seeing her in person. How is she able to get close to you enough to try to hold your hand or even have the chance to utter "I love you,"?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      I cut her off AFTER she started acting crazy

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      • Tealights
        7 years ago

        Ah. Yeah, she's a lunatic. Be careful of who you date.

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  • Digsbie
    7 years ago

    restraining order time?

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  • agoodlovejoy
    7 years ago

    All girls are gonna do that. They all are loving. You r an asshole.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      how am i an asshole?

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      • agoodlovejoy
        7 years ago

        She had a hard time keeping u interested in her. You misunderstood her busy ways it ran u crae crae. You shouldnt leave her to long for you

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          what?

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  • NyxScott
    7 years ago

    This could be normal if it happened not too long ago. It's a part of grieving and denial. But with most things, feelings and life move on. If she keeps persisting and all, or finding new ways to talk to You, then maybe a restraining order, and no, that wouldn't be normal.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    7 years ago

    It was a good thing you cut off all contact. Her behavior seems like something a psycho would do.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      I am a psycho and would never do that.

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  • LittleMissSociopath
    7 years ago

    it's not normal unfortunately for her. I hope one day she regrets it and grows enough confidence to look back and laugh. Also age plays a huge role in this behaviour. If she is young, like 13-14 maybe even 15 yeah it's normal but if she's a full blown adult still doing it she has a personality disorder and abandonment issues.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      she's a grown woman. she is older than me.

      and i do think she has a personality disorder.

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      • LittleMissSociopath
        7 years ago

        you would be right pal. Borderline personality disorder is characterised by self harm, severe abandonment issues and fear of being hurt, or left alone, mood swings, paranoia, distortion of reality...is she in any way like that as well as the obsession with you?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          I would be very surprised if she doesnt have borderline personality disorder.

          self harm? i dont know. i think she starves herself. i never saw her eat the whole time we were together.

          severe abandonment issues? probably. she seems to feel the need to make sure everyone loves her.

          fear of being hurt? yes.

          mood swings? YES.

          paranoia? i dont think so. maybe a little. when i told her that hanging out with her feels different from hanging out with my friends, she instantly assumed i meant it in a negative way. but i actually meant i was very attracted to her.

          distortion of reality? YES. ABSOLUTELY.

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  • IMissMary
    7 years ago

    She as well as most females have a hard time accepting rejection. Avoid all contact and do not speak to her about anything, not a single word.

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  • carelessCourtney
    7 years ago

    My name is betty brant, but my friends call me bb

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Its called denial.

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  • freedom_of_sex
    7 years ago

    Can you share with us the specific reason of this breakup? Or you can explain to her that for this reason or that reason, i broke up with you. If she will do better, then restore your love.

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