Is it normal to read check your girlfriend/boyfriend's texts or facebook?

Well, I don't feel like snooping unless I have that gut feeling .

ANd everytime I have that gut feeling I'm right.

But seriously , the old '' thrust is everything'' crap is getting old. I won't turn into an idiotic barbie doll because I'm dating you, people are people and you never know what they really are inside

i absolutely hate that! it's just not their business.

I don't believe in any kind of snooping without suspicion. But oddly enough I had an ex that gave me his fb password. I didn't ask for it or even use it. Still unsure why he did that, maybe all of his exes made him.

to be honest i think that they have a right to ask and you have a right to refuse without anyone getting angry. but if he takes your mobile n starts reading it without your permission n then makes assumptions, his an ass. especially if when you ask to see his texts he yells at you n breaks up with you

They don't have the right to do it but they have the right to ask, and you have the right to say no.

I showed my ex-girlfriend a text and she asked if she could read more. I let her have the phone and she spent three hours solid going through a few year's worth of them. I don't know what she expected to find. A lot of them were from her, or people she knew (or knew of). She wouldn't let me see even a single one of hers, though, and I'd never have read them without her permission. I'd probably not have liked what I found.

But, for me, I'd happily tell random strangers what texts I got and sent on a particular day. I just don't care who knows. It's not like they're particularly interesting.

People don't understand but to have a functional relationship you must trust each other. and sneaking behind each others backs to read msgs is not okay!! in any form of relationship whether it be a friendship, family, etc.

i've done it before when i was very young (15-16) and i will never do it again. it's not my business and you need to respect somebody as an individual before you start dating them. they're gonna have secrets and you have to let them keep them!

I just ask my boyfriend if I want to know or see something. You can always tell if they're hiding sommething otherwise they wouldn't care what you see. I dont care who sees my phone or facebook because i got nothing to hide. I have my boyfriends passwords and stuff just like he has mine. There has been times when i've asked to see his phone and he refused to let me see it so clearly he was hiding something (which he was)and i only ask him to see his phone if i think he's hiding something

When I met my husband I was dating someone else. My husband was the 'other man'. I have never been unfaithful to him or given him any reason to distrust me yet on multiple occasions he has hacked into my e-mail and facebook accounts. He even checks the browser history after I've been online. I don't know where this distrust comes from but it drives me insane and makes me want to hide things from him so he would have something to find! He then denies doing it when I ask him if he has.

Firstly don't go through each others stuff without asking, but also...Don't do anything you would feel guilty about then there's no problem is there?

You should trust each other and shouldn't need to 'check up'. But sometimes anxieties creep in for all kinds of reasons and a bit of reassurance can go a long way. Those who are most adamant about saying 'its private' or 'its none of their business' have usually got something to hide.

I prefer not to go through their facebook, and especially not through their phone. Even if they were being sketchy. I'm thinking if I did go through their personal things, it would have saved me a bunch of trouble since they've all been unfaithful LOL. Yet, I'm not the type of person to want to do it.