Is it normal to radically want to change yourself after making any mistake?

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i tried to make friends with someone a while back on facebook and after 6 months of not having my friend request accepted, i removed the request and hit the "follow" button instead. i thought that maybe it would be ok for me to see their statuses without forcing them to commit to being my friend, i was wrong. They messaged me finally, after all these months and told me that they wanted nothing to do with me. i told them ok but that it may be impossible not to see them because we travelled in the same circles and i was moving to their town. They said that they would do something about that and that us meeting would be impossible after they were done. i told them that in our circle of friends, i have been closer to the people and the places they have in common with me than they have and i stupidly challenged them to see if they could oust me. They took what i said and went to our shared friends and now our shared friends are angry at me. As a result of this, i have quit the groups that i belong to that are headed by my friends, i have vowed never to befriend anyone on facebook again and i have parred back my profile to make socially engaging anyone less desirable and i will only stay on the site to watch but never to social interact with anyone ever again....because i feel that trying to socially engage people is what got me in this mess to begin with. is this a normal way to react to a mistake that i made that i am totally to blame for?

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Oh dear, that was quite the mistake! :O You probably scared the crap out of that person, so retreating is the only right thing to do at this point. Yes, you are normal for backing off. I know you didn't mean to at the time, but you pulled some classic stalker-ish moves; scary stuff. Lesson learned, time to move on. Don't beat yourself up about it too much, though; it's not healthy to linger too much. People make blunders. Accept and move on.

    :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      maybe i need to rethink moving to that city. i am obviously the worst kind of stalker ever. i should become a hermit.....hopefully i won't be too lonely. i need to accept that i am horrible, you are right and i need to do everything in my power to keep myself from stalking, harming, or doing anything that will annoy or scare people. i hate myself so much right now.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        No, you're not 'horrible,'you just made a mistake. Please, don't hate yourself for this. We're all human here and occasionally we make the wrong choices. Just leave those people be and you'll be fine. :)

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  • Freedom_
    10 years ago

    Facebook makes everyone change radically.

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  • pazzler
    10 years ago

    Do you know why they'd be so resistant to being a Facebook friend, given that you've moved in the same circles?

    I know you called their bluff and it didn't pan out for you, but there was something before that. The reason already existed. I wouldn't suggest pursuing it with them, but it might be worth thinking about.

    For the record, you sound reasonable enough to me. Although you feel bad, perhaps you're being unfair to yourself and are punishing yourself for something that isn't your problem.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      i don't think i am being unfair to myself because i am intellectually inferior to everyone in my circle of friends and this proves to me that all of my decisions and actions need to be questioned. i am going to try to not be so stalkerish by avoiding human contact as much as possible and never interacting with anyone face to face (or non-anonymously) again. if being a hermit works, then i know it is the right decision. i just hope the suicidal thoughts i have had in the past don't return this time.

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