Is it normal to put your mother-in-law to social security and then feel bad?

My mother-in-law has been living off a benefit for the last 20+ years, and has been living with a boyfriend for the last 7 years, which she hasnt declared to Social Services. She has also deliberately spelt her name wrong with Social Services so that she can leave and re-enter the country without her welfare benefit being stopped. Over the years, she has had numerous holidays overseas, including but not limited to Fiji, Bali, Vanuatu, LA, Las Vegas and NYC. (She lives in NZ). She has also received not one, but two large inheritances, and has spent the lot on gambling. I contacted the Social Security office and advised them of all this. They interviewed me yesterday, and are going round to see her in the next week or two. I dont feel bad for dupping her in, but I am worried about any ramifications that come our way, as she is a very nasty, vindictive person.

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Comments ( 12 )
  • NeuroNeptunian

    Good, people that leech off of the system like that take away from those that actually need it to survive.

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  • Avant-Garde

    She deserves to be punished for what she's done. It's normal to be scared, but I think you should be fine. Then again the government can be unpredictable, but at least you turned her in. What are you scared of her doing to you?

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    • simba1

      She is pure poison, and has caused massive family rifts. She lies incessantly, spreads rumours that have the potential to affect our business in a big way, and is never happier than when she is interfering and causing grief.

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  • penpal21

    Good for you, mate!!!!!!

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  • TurboDiesel

    3/10/2012

    Wow... Yeah, it's always normal to feel bad when you turn in a family member for doing something, but I think that you definitely did the right thing.

    The real question is how does your husband feel about your turning his mother in to the feds? I hope he is understanding, as it could put a real strain on your relationship with him. I know if my wife did that to my mother without discussing the issue with me first, I might just divorce her.

    Regardless, sounds like your mother-in-law is a real P.O.S., and will likely get what she deserves for her illegal behaviors. As a hard-working tax payer, I'm glad to hear that you turned her in.

    With any luck, she'll be doing some jail time!

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    • simba1

      No, hubby is fine about it. His mother left him in the garden as a newborn in the middle of winter, and he eventually got adopted out. Hubby never met her till he was 29, and wishes he never had. And, yes, I did discuss it with him prior to potting her. In my opinion, as a business owner and taxpayer, I was getting sick and tired of my taxes and everyone elses in New Zealand paying to buy her a house, when she has sat at home for the last 20 years on social security, and only has two years to go on her mortgage. If the govt force the sale of her house to recoup that money, and use it to support genuine cases of hardship, then I am all to happy to see her world come crashing down. She has been a theif, fraudster and liar for far, far to long.

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  • simba1

    Actually, it is more mind blowing than that. Since she has been in this relationship, she has had $104,000 that she wasnt entitled to.

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    • joybird

      Wow!! Did she tell you that they have caught her and want it all paid back?

      That should give her something to think about and stay out of your business!!

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      • simba1

        Yes, we did receive a text to say that it looks like she will lose her house. She also blamed my husband for it, and he had nothing to do with it.

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        • joybird

          If she got that much money she should have enough to buy another house, if she hasn't she has plenty of good memories enjoying taxpayers' money that she'll be able to look back on, when she's in her tent!

          I have no sympathy for her at all.

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  • simba1

    Well, they must have been round to see her, as her "boarder" (Boyfriend) is not there anymore. I dread to think how much she has been overpaid. I would say in excess of $100,000

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  • joybird

    The source of the information you gave them is confidential so don't worry. They will probably check the information you gave them to verify it's true and then they will have the proof to confront her - without saying that they were informed by anyone at all.

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