Is it normal to often have boyfriends suddenly get tired of you?

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I've had multiple relationships go the exact same way. At first things are great, and we seem to really like each other. One day they say they love me and start to be extra nice to me. After a month at most, take it back. After that they always act very distant and pick fights with me. After a while of trying to save our relationship, they finally break up with me and move on to another relationship where they treat the girl really well the entire way through. And they always either stay together or she breaks up with him and breaks his heart. I don't understand why this happens to me so often. I would feel a lot better if these guys were the type to do this in all or most of their relationships (not that I want it to happen to to other girls). It's not like I start to act different after they say they love me. I just don't get it.

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  • mystery7
    8 years ago

    Well, the common denominator in this equation is you.

    So start by accepting at least 50% of the responsibility for what's happened. Maybe there's something you are not giving enough of to keep them around (and that doesn't necessarily mean just sex).

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    It sounds to me as though you aren't choosing guys very well. Try seeking a relationship with a different type.
    Since college, I've not dated one single gal over 5'4" tall, all relatively petite and hardy.
    I met and fell in love with a woman who was 5'8" with an athletic build, and I couldn't be happier. It's by far the best relationship I've ever been in.
    I can see I probably missed out on many a good relationship because of my steadfast adherence to a 'type'.

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  • gloryholeflasher
    8 years ago

    Erin, is that you? I keep telling you, you need to spend a little more time getting to know a guy before you let him move in and start acting like a couple.

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  • popcorngoo
    8 years ago

    Either A) it's them

    or B) it's you

    Maybe they weren't really interested to begin with and just wanted to play around with you?

    Maybe you did something or something about your personality just wasn't right with these guys. You may not even notice it but unconsciously maybe you are doing something to drive them away?

    Or possibly you are picking the type of guys who aren't serious and have this hit it and quit it mentality? You might just be choosing guys who aren't good for you. Without knowing you personally it's hard to say.

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  • JackRoberts
    8 years ago

    Mmm well i'm a guy and single and ineed of a girlfriend

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Are you the one who said you had Borderline personality disorder?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      No. I'm not.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        Okay.

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      • 1manband
        8 years ago

        I was the same, and looking back I don't know why! Sorry

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  • Lies
    8 years ago

    They have sex with you and move on.

    Once they have sex with you there's no reason to stay around.

    lol sounds harsh but it's the truth.

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    • Short4Words
      8 years ago

      Lies.

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