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my boyfriend is always asking me when i want to have sex and i tell him i'm not ready yet. i just don't want to yet but i want to know what that type of pleasure feels like. iin?
It's normal for young guys to pester their girlfriends for sex. It's normal for young women who have never had sex to be hesitant to take that step. In an ideal world, young men would be willing to take "no" as an answer, and wait for the young woman to decide she's ready. Unfortunately, we don't live in an ideal world, and the culture we do live in has elevated having sex to something that's ultra-important and even expected if you're with someone above the age of consent for more than a couple of weeks.
If you don't masturbate, you should. If you're not familiar with your own body, don't know what you need in order to enjoy sexual stimulation and have never given yourself an orgasm, it's highly unlikely that you're going to find sex with a guy a truly wonderful experience.
And even if you've figured out all that, it is definitely not the case that having a penis in your vagina will guarantee that you'll feel the earth move and see the stars fall from the heavens. Most young guys believe they know everything there is to learn about sex and what they should do because they've watched lots of porn. The truth is that almost all of them are totally clueless. They almost certainly know what they need in order to come because they've masturbated, but their ideas of what women need in order to enjoy sex is based on the performances of porn _actresses_. So the result is kinda like a kid getting into a playground fight and believing that if he breaks out the martial art moves he's seen countless times in animé, he'll win the scrap.
If you were my daughter, I would very much hope that you wouldn't agree to do something you're uncomfortable doing just to make your boyfriend happy. I'd be very upset if I learned that the guy was pressuring you to have sex by threatening to break-up if you didn't, and I'd hope you'd understand that this just proved he wasn't the sort of guy you wanted to be with in any case.
I’m going to give you the advice I always give; if you don’t want to - don’t.
There is no “correct” age to be ready to have sex, some people are ready at 17, some at 24, some later. There are even some asexual people who never want to. All are ok.
The right guy will not try to pester or pressure you into sex. He will be willing to wait until YOU are ready. If you feel like he’s getting too insistent or trying to guilt you into (eg.“But we’ve been together for [X amount of time]!”) it I would recommend leaving him.
Also if you do decide to do it remember the importance of contraception, it only takes one sperm for an unplanned pregnancy.