Is it normal to not want to go to mexico with husband...

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My husband was born in Mexico. We have been married for over a year, and this Christmas he wants to go to Mexico and have me meet his family.

I am 20, in nursing school and work 2-4 shifts a week as a waitress. Although my husband has a full time job and no school, I am still expected to pay as much as he does for bills and whatnot. So I do. I still have to finish paying my school (1,000), and he wants me to pay for my plane ticket (another 1,000). I told him I won't be able to go due to the cost and he continuously calls me lazy, selfish, and said if I really wanted to go I would be working more.

In my opinion, I don't think he understands the stress of school and work. He constantly compares me to his sister in law who has picked up more days (exactly 1 day more, which is only 1 day more than I work, plus she does not have school).

I wanted to hear what other people think because I feel like I am going crazy. Am I selfish and lazy for not picking up more days to go to Mexico? I don't want to put myself on a pedestal but I feel like I work harder to better myself through education than he or anyone else has and don't get any credit for it.

Thank you in advance.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Sounds to me like a marriage made in hell.
    If you two are having this much difficulty communicating after only a year, this marriage is not going to last.
    I'd cut your losses before you graduate or chances are he's going to be awarded a big chunk of your income when after you are making nurses, wages by the divorce court. All he'll have to claim is that he helped put you through school, especially if you are in California.

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    • green_boogers
      8 years ago

      Excellent point. She needs to save all her pay stubs, and tuition bills to prove in court that she put herself thru school.

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  • handsignalsfucksyourmom
    8 years ago

    You can't do it, your to busy, whats the big fucking deal, tell him to fuck off.

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  • snarkygirl
    8 years ago

    Tell him to just go himself

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  • MaryLouiseCatwhiskers
    8 years ago

    Finish your degree, get a nursing job, then go to Mexico.

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  • 1rebeccababy
    7 years ago

    sounds more like a bussiness than a marriage

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  • CountessDouche
    8 years ago

    http://mexicovacationawareness.com/mexicostory.html

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    • CountessDouche
      8 years ago

      And no, your boyfriend sounds like an asshole. It's very easy to discount the hard work that other people do when you aren't doing it yourself. If he thinks your complaints are frivolous, then he's just showing how selfish he is. I would seriously reconsider dating him if I was you; he seems to lack empathy, and he doesn't seem to take your hard work or your goals very seriously.

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    • gloryholeflasher
      8 years ago

      I clicked on the link you posted and it confirmed what I have long suspected about Mexico, except that it's worse than I thought. I used to believe tourists were somewhat protected in the resorts but obviously that's not so. I realize that some people visit Mexico for years with no problems at all, but it sounds like a crap shoot and they are just the lucky ones. I wouldn't go to Mexico again even if I had an all expense paid free vacation!

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